how can I get on this mailing list for orlando events? I hear about them every
so often but I think I am missing them a bit. How ofter are they?

And yeah herpes sucks but just remember it's pretty much just a stupid skin
rash. You are still you. (its the kind of thing I tell myself to feel better!)

evansprod@... wrote:
Excellent advice Camille and Christina...
:) Scott Evans
evansprod@...
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In a message dated 1/25/2008 7:23:26 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
gomer425@... writes:

I will say that I believe most, if not everyone, who has contracted herpes
feels dirty at first, and that feeling is exacerbated when we condemn
ourselves for not exercising more caution, insisting upon testing, asking
questions
upfront, etc., etc......

First and foremost, forgive yourself for not asking questions or being more
cautious, etc. There's nothing you can do to change the past, but you can
make the future better by forgiving yourself, which will take some of the
pressure off.

Second, I noticed that you said you also feel dirty because of fear of
rejection. The troubling aspect of this is the stigma attached to it. I, too,
have
the same concern, but I also know that people can also reject us for reasons
other than H.

I have joined different H sites and H groups not only to make new friends,
but also in hopes of finding special someone. Ironically, some of the guys
that I have chatted with and/or met have been some of the most insecure,
judgmental, dismissive people I have ever come across, and we had H in common.
The
fact that your ex had H and didn't tell you is like a form of rejection in and
of itself. I know, the same thing happened to me, so you're not alone.

Anyway, I hope I haven't increased your fear or discouragement, but I just
want to let you know, that in the scheme of things, it's about the person and
the circumstances as a whole, and not just about H. There are some who have
met that special someone that accepted them, and that person doesn't have H.
So, it is possible. Keep hope alive! I am, too!

To conclude, while H can seem somewhat limiting, you will feel normal again.
God Bless!

Camille.

Christina <_mefl69@..._ (mailto:mefl69@...) > wrote:
I wish I could give you a big hug, because it does get better.

You aren't dirty and you have to stop blaming yourself, it's not your fault
for loving and trusting someone.

I wish these boards were more active, but they really, really helped me 7
yrs ago, also joining a herpes dating board helped as well.

Please just know you aren't dirty, you are the same wonderful person you
were 4 yrs ago, 1 yr ago. I know this may or may not help, but look at herpes
as
a dating filter....Before you might have given your heart more freely, and
now you can really spend time getting to know a person before you give your
heart to them. Learn to seeing, meeting people from a different angle has
truly
helped me.

Good luck and feel free to email me off line if you have any questions
_mefl69@..._ (mailto:mefl69@...)

Christina

"Good friends are like stars. ... You don't always see them, but you know
they are always there."

----- Original Message ----
From: clap_laila <_clap_laila@..._ (mailto:clap_laila@...) >
To: _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com)
Sent: Thursday, January 24, 2008 3:29:56 PM
Subject: [Orlando H Singles] Will I ever feel normal again???

I was diagnosed about a year ago. I never thought this would happen to
me. I never slept around. I was never promiscuous. I have only had two
partners. I caught herpes from my ex-boyfriend. It's weird how this
virus works. We were together for almost four years before I caught it.
He claimed he didn't know he had herpes but he later told me he had
wahy he thinks was an outbreak when we first started dating and never
bothered to get it checked out by a doctor. As angry as I was with him,
I am twice as angry with myself. How could I have been so stupid? Why
did I not insist we both get tested before we had sex? I keep asking
myself this over and over. I know my health is my own responsibility. I
thought I was doing the right thing. Obviously not. I know it could be
a lot worse. It could have been HIV. At least herpes isn't fatal.
People say time heals all wounds but I can't help but feel dirty. I go
out and meet new people but I feel like I have a dirty little secret. I
can't bring myself to be close to anyone for fear of rejection. Does it
ever get better?

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