Hey Scott! Thanks for the encouragement. He called today and asked
if he could stop by after work so I thought it might be a good time.
It was excruciating, but I told him. He actually felt bad that I'd
been worrying about it all this time! He said he doesn't want to
lose me and will deal with it. I think he will have a lot of
questions but it seems like it won't be a big deal. Of course he
could change his mind tomorrow, but that's the way it goes.

I'm glad I told him before things got too far (they have already
been getting pretty heated :) and I'm glad it's out. Thanks again
for the help. I think I need a stiff drink, LOL! Hope all is well
with you,

S


--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, evansprod@...
wrote:
>
>
> Hey S:
> You should have told him when he was tipsy,,, he might have
been more
> opened to it then, or,,, not remember the next day :)....
> Now you are going to agonize about it, and that's not healthy
either,,,
> I know it may sound like a chickens way out, but an e-mail to
him,
> spilling your guts as to why you didn't do it face to face cause
you are scared,
> embarrassed, etc. and couldn't find the right moment.
> We are all in a special predicament and too have to protect
our
> feelings,,,,I'm a cancer, so we go into our shell for protection,
lol,,,, at least if
> you e-mail the info....it will finally be out of the closet and
sooner than
> later...
> If you are not close to sexual contact, wait,,, definitely
according to
> the editorial,,, its a catch 22,,,,if you tell them too soon,
then they don't
> know all your other great qualities and add them to the equation,
and if you
> tell them too late, they can say "why did u wait so long and let
me grow to
> have feelings for you"....so, don't aggravate yourself about
it,,,, u feel
> you want to tell him, so tell him, any way you can,,,
> In my 3 experiences with women that didn't have it, that I
told,,,they
> all accepted me,,,,:) however, if you ask me
intellectually,,,"would I go out,
> or date someone that has H" i'd probably say "No, I wouldn't"
then again,
> when one is in love,,,?!?!?! You don't die from H,,,,it's mostly
an
> inconvenience....
> Keep me posted,,,
> Supportively Yours,
> :) Scott
> =========================================================
>
> In a message dated 2/2/2007 12:55:52 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:
>
>
>
>
> Well I guess you could say that I chickened out...I don't know. We
> went out and everywhere was too public and crowded. Then we went
back
> to his place for a bit, but we were tired and a little tipsy by
then
> and he was being all romantic, so it just didn't seem like the
right
> time.
>
> So now I don't know what to do and I will be agonizing over it
all
> weekend probably....weekend probably....<WBR>I wish I could just
t
> don't think that would be right....
>
> --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) , evansprod@,
> wrote:
> >
> >
> > Hey,,,
> > WE ALL know how you feel,,,,
> > But, if you are willing to sabotage the relationship, you
> might as well
> > take a chance and tell him/her....
> > If they stick around, "great",,,, if they leave,,, you aren't
any
> worse off
> > than just sabotaging it as u had planned...
> > Another obvious,,,,you know the person at this point, and know
> how they
> > feel towards you (hopefully). feel towards you
(hopefully).<WBR>..so,
> and may use
> > this information against you, they you may be better off
blowing
> them
> > off,,,then again,,,if you feel they are sincere,,, even in
> rejection, they should
> > minimally become a friend and confidant,,,
> > Let me know what happens,,, I'd like to follow up your story
> in my next
> > newsletter.. newsletter..<WBR>. (with your permission and
anonymo
> >
> >
> > Scott, Happenings Editor
> > Website: www.theentertainmen Website: Website:
> > E-mail: happeningseditor@ E-m
> >
> >
> > In a message dated 1/30/2007 4:11:34 P.M. Eastern Standard
Time,
> > _no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_ (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com)
writes:
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > At this point I feel like I'd rather sabatoge the relationship
and
> > break it off than go through with telling him.....
> >
> > --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> > (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ) ,
evansprod@,
> > wrote:
> > >
> > >
> > > Hey everybody,,,
> > > There's an article in the Happenings Herpes Help group e-
> > newsletter
> > > re:this topic....u might find it of interest,,,
> > > The address is www.theentertainmen The addre The addre
> > > Check it out,,,
> > > :) S
> > > -=-=-=-=-=-= -=-= -=-= -=-= -=-= -=-= -
> > > In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51 A.M. Eastern Standard
Time,
> > > _no_reply@yahoogrou
_no_reply@yahoogrou_no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_
> (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com) )
> writes:
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > Thank you for the advice! My last boyfriend basically
said "ok,
> > we'll
> > > deal with it" and it was no problem at all. It's just hard
when
> > you
> > > care about someone and you don't want to hurt them or freak
them
> > out.
> > > I think he is in it for the long haul, but if this makes him
> run,
> > > then I just have to believe that it's not meant to be. I've
had
> > this
> > > for about 10 years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!
> > >
> > > I think we're getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell
him
> > > then....will let you know what happens!
> > >
> > > S
> > >
> > > --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> > >
> > (mailto:_OrlandoFLH (mailto:_Or (mailto:_Or
> >
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
>
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ) ) , "luv2ridef
ast
> "
> > > <staish@> wrote:
> > > >
> > > > Hi there,
> > > >
> > > > I don't have much advice for you. I've only had to tell 2
> > people.
> > > > One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I have it too" and the
other
> > one
> > > > said that he was okay with it, anyone who didn't understand
> and
> > > > couldn't deal with it wasn't worth having, I really thought
it
> > was
> > > > going to be okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was
> > wrong.
> > > > Then, he promptly disappeared. This was devastating as he
was
> a
> > > > friend for a long time and we no longer even have a
> friendship.
> > > So,
> > > > I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.
> > > >
> > > > I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in
there
> > and
> > > > just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell
> > appreciate
> > > > us telling them. I think the only way I have come up with
to
> > tell
> > > is
> > > > just to sit down and say that before things get too intense
> you
> > > just
> > > > need to have a serious talk with him and just come out and
> tell
> > > > him. Then, maybe suggest he do some research on the
internet
> or
> > > see
> > > > a doctor to ask questions and go from there. It amazes me
when
> > > > people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you,
it's
> > just a
> > > > nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it since
age
> 20
> > > and
> > > > I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms with it.
> > > >
> > > > Good luck with telling him. My thoughts will be with you
and
> do
> > > let
> > > > us know how it goes.
> > > >
> > > > Hugs,
> > > > Stacia in Daytona
> > > >
> > > > --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> > > (mailto:_OrlandoFLH (mailto:_Or (mailto:_Or
> > (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ) ) ,
luvmylab_2
> > > > <no_reply@> wrote:
> > > > >
> > > > > Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and it's
> getting
> > to
> > > > be
> > > > > about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this
in
> a
> > > > while
> > > > > and of course I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast
as
> he
> > > can.
> > > > Any
> > > > > suggestions on how to go about it that might help? Thank
you!
> > > > >
> > > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
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