Hey S:
You should have told him when he was tipsy,,, he might have been more
opened to it then, or,,, not remember the next day :)....
Now you are going to agonize about it, and that's not healthy either,,,
I know it may sound like a chickens way out, but an e-mail to him,
spilling your guts as to why you didn't do it face to face cause you are
scared,
embarrassed, etc. and couldn't find the right moment.
We are all in a special predicament and too have to protect our
feelings,,,,I'm a cancer, so we go into our shell for protection, lol,,,, at
least if
you e-mail the info....it will finally be out of the closet and sooner than
later...
If you are not close to sexual contact, wait,,, definitely according to
the editorial,,, its a catch 22,,,,if you tell them too soon, then they don't
know all your other great qualities and add them to the equation, and if you
tell them too late, they can say "why did u wait so long and let me grow to
have feelings for you"....so, don't aggravate yourself about it,,,, u feel
you want to tell him, so tell him, any way you can,,,
In my 3 experiences with women that didn't have it, that I told,,,they
all accepted me,,,,:) however, if you ask me intellectually,,,"would I go out,
or date someone that has H" i'd probably say "No, I wouldn't" then again,
when one is in love,,,?!?!?! You don't die from H,,,,it's mostly an
inconvenience....
Keep me posted,,,
Supportively Yours,
:) Scott
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In a message dated 2/2/2007 12:55:52 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:




Well I guess you could say that I chickened out...I don't know. We
went out and everywhere was too public and crowded. Then we went back
to his place for a bit, but we were tired and a little tipsy by then
and he was being all romantic, so it just didn't seem like the right
time.

So now I don't know what to do and I will be agonizing over it all
weekend probably....weekend probably....<WBR>I wish I could just t
don't think that would be right....

--- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) , evansprod@..,
wrote:
>
>
> Hey,,,
> WE ALL know how you feel,,,,
> But, if you are willing to sabotage the relationship, you
might as well
> take a chance and tell him/her....
> If they stick around, "great",,,, if they leave,,, you aren't any
worse off
> than just sabotaging it as u had planned...
> Another obvious,,,,you know the person at this point, and know
how they
> feel towards you (hopefully). feel towards you (hopefully).<WBR>..so,
and may use
> this information against you, they you may be better off blowing
them
> off,,,then again,,,if you feel they are sincere,,, even in
rejection, they should
> minimally become a friend and confidant,,,
> Let me know what happens,,, I'd like to follow up your story
in my next
> newsletter.. newsletter..<WBR>. (with your permission and anonymo
>
>
> Scott, Happenings Editor
> Website: www.theentertainmen Website: Website:
> E-mail: happeningseditor@ E-m
>
>
> In a message dated 1/30/2007 4:11:34 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> _no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_ (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com) writes:
>
>
>
>
> At this point I feel like I'd rather sabatoge the relationship and
> break it off than go through with telling him.....
>
> --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ) , evansprod@,
> wrote:
> >
> >
> > Hey everybody,,,
> > There's an article in the Happenings Herpes Help group e-
> newsletter
> > re:this topic....u might find it of interest,,,
> > The address is www.theentertainmen The addre The addre
> > Check it out,,,
> > :) S
> > -=-=-=-=-=-= -=-= -=-= -=-= -=-= -=-= -
> > In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> > _no_reply@yahoogrou _no_reply@yahoogrou_no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_
(mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com) )
writes:
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Thank you for the advice! My last boyfriend basically said "ok,
> we'll
> > deal with it" and it was no problem at all. It's just hard when
> you
> > care about someone and you don't want to hurt them or freak them
> out.
> > I think he is in it for the long haul, but if this makes him
run,
> > then I just have to believe that it's not meant to be. I've had
> this
> > for about 10 years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!
> >
> > I think we're getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell him
> > then....will let you know what happens!
> >
> > S
> >
> > --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> >
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLH (mailto:_Or (mailto:_Or
>
(mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ) ) , "luv2ridefast
"
> > <staish@> wrote:
> > >
> > > Hi there,
> > >
> > > I don't have much advice for you. I've only had to tell 2
> people.
> > > One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I have it too" and the other
> one
> > > said that he was okay with it, anyone who didn't understand
and
> > > couldn't deal with it wasn't worth having, I really thought it
> was
> > > going to be okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was
> wrong.
> > > Then, he promptly disappeared. This was devastating as he was
a
> > > friend for a long time and we no longer even have a
friendship.
> > So,
> > > I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.
> > >
> > > I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in there
> and
> > > just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell
> appreciate
> > > us telling them. I think the only way I have come up with to
> tell
> > is
> > > just to sit down and say that before things get too intense
you
> > just
> > > need to have a serious talk with him and just come out and
tell
> > > him. Then, maybe suggest he do some research on the internet
or
> > see
> > > a doctor to ask questions and go from there. It amazes me when
> > > people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's
> just a
> > > nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age
20
> > and
> > > I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms with it.
> > >
> > > Good luck with telling him. My thoughts will be with you and
do
> > let
> > > us know how it goes.
> > >
> > > Hugs,
> > > Stacia in Daytona
> > >
> > > --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> > (mailto:_OrlandoFLH (mailto:_Or (mailto:_Or
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ) ) , luvmylab_2
> > > <no_reply@> wrote:
> > > >
> > > > Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and it's
getting
> to
> > > be
> > > > about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this in
a
> > > while
> > > > and of course I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as
he
> > can.
> > > Any
> > > > suggestions on how to go about it that might help? Thank you!
> > > >
> > >
> >
> >
> >
> >
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