I agree, Tammy. My DH & I both work Mon-Fri 8-5 jobs,
outside of the home... our girls were 6 & 8 when
adopted (8 & 10 now). One of us drops them off at
school around 7:20... after school, they go to the
school daycare until around 5:15... then during the
summer they go to the school daycare (the same hours
as school). They love it and miss it when they aren't
there. It takes a special woman to be a SAHM. But I
don't feel that it's not for me (I may feel different
if my girls were not school age, but my youngest
started Kindergarten a little over a month after we
got them). I am a good mom, I love my kids but I
enjoy working. Although, even if I felt I needed to
be a SAHM, I do have to work. If I didn't work, the
girls wouldn't be able to do all of the extracuricular
activities, have new school clothes and we would
struggle to pay the bills. My best friend is a
SAHM... has been for almost 11 years. Her & I have
this conversation on a regular basis. They feel that
moms are supposed to be SAHM's and I feel it depends
on the mom/family.

Misty

PS HI Tammy... how are you guys doing?? It's been
almost a year since you finalized... are you guys
going to have a celebration? We just celebrated our
two year anniversary.


Re: WHere is everyone???????? Posted
by: "tammy.houser@..."
tammy.houser@...
housersiron Fri Jul
20, 2007 8:17 am (PST) I
think it really depends on your DHHR. My hubby & I
both work full time
jobs & it didn't really matter to our DHHR. We're in
WV btw. I would talk
to my worker & see what they say.

I would love to be a sahm, but we need both incomes,
especially with
adding 2 kids to our house. Drew drops them off at 5
a.m. at his mom's
house & they go back to sleep until 7:30 & then she
gets them dressed & she
drops them off at school on her way to work at 8:20.
Drew gets off work at
3:30 p.m., so his mom's husband picks the kids from
school at 3:20 & they
stay with him until Drew get's home at 4:00. My job
lets me telework from
home on Mondays & Fridays & whenever else that I need
to. In the summer
they go to summer camp from 8:30-4:00 through our
local parks & rec & his
mom drops them off there & Drew picks them up. So our
schedule works out
great & the kids adjusted to it very well. Like you
really wanted to know
all that, but my point is that you don't have to be a
sahm to be a good
parent & provide a stable environment. Like I said,
talk to your worker &
see what they say.

Tammy H
mom to Derek (8) & Krista (6)
Adoption final 8/17/06



Misty
Wife to Todd, Mom to Nicole - 10 (PTSD, ADD, Bedwetter--but dry since April 1,
06--My wonderful, sweet angel) and Leah - 8 (PTSD, ADHD, OCD--My pride, joy &
heartache); adopted June 30, 2005...Wow, we survived our first two years, now a
lifetime to go.











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