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Re: [OASIS-Adopt] Adoption Process

In a message dated 1/18/2007 10:25:44 A.M. Pacific Standard Time, kiecho4@... writes:
I just need support
and advice what to do and where to go? Is there any private agency
domestic or international that would still let us adopt cause of my
weight? Is there any social workers that wont discriminate against my
weight in this country?
I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. At times adoption makes you want to pull out all of your hair. No one has to approve you to have a baby naturally, but when you want to adopt they pull out a magnifying glass. Weight is subjective. Everyone views it differently. I have heard of other social workers who ignored the doctor and turned down someone based on size. I have heard of couples who switched home study agencies (which is expensive) and experienced a completely different attitude. I weigh 270 and it wasn't mentioned at all in my home study. I hope you can find a way around this, even if it means trying again with someone else. I will mention to you that I was taking several prescription medications (including an anti depressant) and very concerned about them when it came to the home study. I actually called a few agencies and asked them what their policy was and they told me. I found one who said whatever my doctor said was all that mattered and I knew he wasn't concerned about life expectancy etc. Keep us updated please. You WILL be a mommy
 
Sandra
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Thu Jan 18, 2007 8:14 pm

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My husband and I have been going through the process for adopting a newborn domestically and have gotten to the homestudy point. I am currently weighing in at...
Carolyn
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Jan 18, 2007
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In a message dated 1/18/2007 10:25:44 A.M. Pacific Standard Time, kiecho4@... writes: I just need support and advice what to do and where to go? Is...
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Jan 18, 2007
8:16 pm

BTDT I am afraid. We went through the home study from hell that is for sure. My weight and my husbands were both scrutinized by the guy doing the homestudy,...
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Jan 18, 2007
10:15 pm

Thank you so much for the replies so far. Karen I read on the Oasis message board and it has been a ton. I am so glad. I didnt know that the social worker was...
Carolyn G. Aldriddge
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Jan 18, 2007
11:31 pm

We adoptesd through our state which is WV & I weigh 390 lbs. They never mentioned my weight at all. They mainly focus on health & with them being around me...
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Jan 19, 2007
1:01 pm

I honestly think the difference between Tammy and my case was that we were fosterparents first where as she and her husband took children whose parents rights...
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Jan 19, 2007
6:34 pm

Yes, that is correct. I think that made a huge difference. We told them up front that we only were interested in children that were free for adoption. My...
tammy.houser@...
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Jan 19, 2007
7:44 pm

We also adopted through our state (FL). I was about 240 or so when we adopted our daughters. My weight never came up. Never. We jsut gave them our doctor...
Misty Moore
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Jan 20, 2007
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