My husband and I have been going through the process for adopting a
newborn domestically and have gotten to the homestudy point. I am
currently weighing in at 403 and have joined WW and will lose this. I
have made a long term commitment here anyways. We got to the
individual interviews and our social worker brought up my weight ( I
told the truth) and told me that we may not be approved becuase of it
cause it will effect the length of my life well my doctor said that I
have a normal life span and that I have no medical problems cause I
dont. Nothing is over normal and I am fine but yet she said that they
may not approve me and if they do they may make us do xyz first. If
it means losing 200 pounds to go this route I will be almost 40
before this can be done. I dont understand if I couldnt take care of
a baby I wouldnt be doing this. I know what I can and cannot do. I am
really hurting right now cause I feel like she is going to take this
away and we wont be able to be parents cause of me. Doctors wouldnt
work with me to get pregnant and now they wont let me adopt cause I
am overweight. My husband says we wont give up. I am just so hurt
right now that I dont know what I am going to do except if my weight
does do this I am going to talk to a lawyer cause my dr even stated I
am fine and they are just ignoring that. I emailed our adoption
specialist cause she and everyone else at the agency said that my
weight is not going to be discriminated there but now she is not
touching the subject and telling me that it wont be an issue. She
just states they are only looking at what the judge will.Is this
true, will a judge really discriminate against what I weigh and not
listen to the doctor but the social worker? Well, we shall see. We
have one more meeting Saturday and then when the study comes back we
will know and I can face it head on. Right now, I just need support
and advice what to do and where to go? Is there any private agency
domestic or international that would still let us adopt cause of my
weight? Is there any social workers that wont discriminate against my
weight in this country?