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I was told in my state (MO) it isnt a straight foster adopt but the first
plan is reunification with the bios. Sometimes I
think I can handle it until we have one we can keep -
and sometimes I wonder if I can.
plan is reunification with the bios. Sometimes I
think I can handle it until we have one we can keep -
and sometimes I wonder if I can.
Every state is that way. The first plan is to take them from the bios and put into fostercare and reunify them with the parents and if that fails for whatever reasons then they are up for adoption and the foster parents get first refusal. That is one big downfall!
Infants aren't available for even fostering as they have a long
waiting list already. Which is okay (I guess).
waiting list already. Which is okay (I guess).
Don't buy into that one. We got a newborn as our first placement. Once you are liscenced they will ask what ages you want and you can state and they will try to match you with that age, however they will also try to get you to take other ages, just stand your ground and it could take a few years but it may just happen!
My dh
is also worried about the cost of international
adoption. I'm nost sure what specific questions to ask
you! Sometimes they get judgmental on the lists about
people who want to adopt rather than *just* foster.
is also worried about the cost of international
adoption. I'm nost sure what specific questions to ask
you! Sometimes they get judgmental on the lists about
people who want to adopt rather than *just* foster.
I found a lot of people on the lists are professional parents. They either have adopted a few or none and just do fostercare as a job basically. I found there are three types of people that do fostercare
1. Infertiles that want a family
2. People that do it for a living
3. Older persons that need to supplement their retirmeent income
That is my experience anyway around here, Maine.
I won't dive into too much but my husband and I are in the adoption phase now with our daughter who we got as a newborn, 2 days old. She is now 27 months old. We woudl go to the end of the planet for her however for an unknown child, never again. We came too close to losing her to her bio a few times and then when bio had rights terminated we had a horrible case worker who thought that people with more money than us and a bigger house etc should raise our daughter and he moved her. We had no legal grounds. I fought with all we had and we got her home in 10 days but those were the worst 10 days of my life and I will NEVER go through this again, EVER. Once our adoption is done I will be more than happy to share all the gory details as I have pages and pages of notes and conversations that were lies etc. It was just horrific.
One thing you can do and I know Tammy H did this was just do adoption. You get liscencsed the same way as fostering however instead of doing fostercare first you just sign up to adopt. Children that are cleared for adoption then are the ones that you would meet and visit with and potentially go from there for adoption. I would recommend this route but also ask questions like why are the fosterparents not adopting this child? Go in eyes wide open and you can come out a great family. We were just too nieve to believe the system could be as bad as it is this day in age and it about killed us in the process.
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Karen
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