Hi Misty,

I hope it's okay if I jump in here! My Dh leans
strongly toward foster adopt. We probably wouldn't
want to start for about 2 1/2 to 3 years. I do have
some fears. Well I follow a couple of foster lists and
some of the stories intimdate me. I worry about the
child going back to the bios. I was told in my state
(MO) it isnt a straight foster adopt but the first
plan is reunification with the bios. Sometimes I
think I can handle it until we have one we can keep -
and sometimes I wonder if I can. Infants aren't
available for even fostering as they have a long
waiting list already. Which is okay (I guess). My dh
is also worried about the cost of international
adoption. I'm nost sure what specific questions to ask
you! Sometimes they get judgmental on the lists about
people who want to adopt rather than *just* foster.
The story about the bio mom and her boyfriend killing
the social worker who was bringing her son to her from
foster care scares me too! I know that is just one
story but still...

thanks,
Melanie


--- Misty Moore <mnmoore3@...> wrote:

> Hi Jenney,
>
> I think you are following the right path. First you
> need to look into all aspects of adoption. Decide
> what is best for your family. My husband & I
> adopted
> two daughters (they are bio sisters) from foster
> care.
> We decided that we did not have to have a baby,
> although that is a very big decision to make. Some
> couples just need to have a baby. We also didn't
> have
> the money for an expensive adoption and my husband
> refused to go into debt to adopt... so with all of
> that, our best option was foster adopt. For our
> family, it was the best decision. Although
> sometimes
> I get the feelings of wanting a baby, I wouldn't
> change anything. I absolutely LOVE our family and
> our
> daughters. We have talked about adopting again (we
> adopted them almost 18 months ago) but our little
> family of 4 just works so perfectly I don't know if
> we
> will or not.
>
> Good luck on your decision making. If you have any
> questions regarding foster adopt, feel free to ask.
>
> Misty
>
> --- Jenney <jknjln@...> wrote:
>
> > Hi All,
> >
> > I have been doing some heavy thinking - and am
> still
> > very confused.
> > We are now starting to think that International
> may
> > be the best path
> > for us.
> >
> > Do any of you have any pros/cons for either?
> >
> > Thank you for your help!!
> > Jenney
> >
> >
> >
>
>
> Misty
> Wife to Todd, Mom to Nicole - 9 (PTSD, ADD,
> Bedwetter--but dry since April 1, 06--My wonderful,
> sweet angel) and Leah - 7 (PTSD, ADHD, OCD--My
> pride, joy & heartache); adopted June 30,
> 2005...Wow, we survived our first year, now a
> lifetime to go.
>
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