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From: Jen Reichart

To: OASIS-Adopt@yahoogroups.com

Sent: Monday, November 06, 2006 5:42 PM

Subject: RE: [OASIS-Adopt] International vs. Domestic

Hi Jenney,

 

Congratulations on your decision to adopt.  Your question is one that it seems like everyone has to address at some point.  My husband and I were planning to adopt internationally until I did more research.  I think the bottom line is, you have to decide what things are important to you.  Everyone makes the best decision they can for their family. 

 

In my case, I desperately wanted a newborn but thought that wasn’t possible.  I had also heard that placement of domestic newborns usually took several years and often had drug and alcohol related issues.  I heard lots of birthmother horror stories, too.  After attending an adoption information faire, we became more informed and dispelled many of those myths.  We found out that the company we used had a quick placement average (9 months).  We also had financial considerations as well (we spent most of what we had on fertility treatments including IVF that wasn’t covered at all by insurance) like most people J and wanted a baby (my hubby wanted a boy) quickly after undergoing fertility treatments for years.  Our case is unusual in our little support group of adoptive parents, we are the only ones to adopt domestically.  We signed with our agency at the end of April (this year), finished our home study mid May and got our first call about prospective babies the following Friday.  The babies (identical twin full Caucasian boys) were due Oct. 3.  We were matched and brought our babies home from the hospital 48 hours after they were born (their birthday is Sept 18).  They are now 7 weeks old.  The whole process took like 5 months from sign up to babies.  J

 

Anyhow, forgive me for sharing my story, but I think it is pretty special.  J  Just sit down with your partner and decide what things are important to you and let that help steer you in the right direction.  I remember how overwhelming it all was when we were just starting out, if you have any questions, I’d be happy to help J.

 

Jen

 

-----Original Message-----
From: OASIS-Adopt@yahoogroups.com [mailto:OASIS-Adopt@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of Jenney
Sent: Monday, November 06, 2006 3:25 PM
To: OASIS-Adopt@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [OASIS-Adopt] International vs. Domestic

 

Hi All,

I have been doing some heavy thinking - and am still very confused.
We are now starting to think that International may be the best path
for us.

Do any of you have any pros/cons for either?

Thank you for your help!!
Jenney