--- In MyEDHelpSupport@yahoogroups.com, "Ari ..." <Soccerstar09@...>
wrote:
>
Hi everyone! Ok, about 12 step groups.. There is a new fellowship
called EDA. It is completely UNLIKE OA, FA, AND FAA, which also are
good and have their place. EDA's motto is "It's not about the
Food," "It's not about the Weight." It's about the feelings. EDA has
a home page, there are phone meetings, there are online meetings and
there are meetings in many cities in our country. OA is also good,
but stresses food and weight, as do FA and FAA (food addicts
anonymous)

OA has a real positive 'cheerleady' vibe to it. Every OA group is
different, though. EDA can address the needs of anorexia and bulimia
and all EDNOS's in between.

Also, have you looked at the MyEdhelp.com website? It has a national
meeting list, and I have a blog called 'Vs.' on that site with
articles about body image, the scale and crap like that that gets to
us.
Also, the NEDA website is very good, and you might really want to go
n the ANAD website.
I need to go read more of your postings.
allison

> Melissa,
>
> Glad I'm on track though I do have to say giving advice is always
much
> easier for me then taking it, lol. I also think that not signing up
for the
> training sounds like a wise idea right now, good job=)
>
> I had also signed up at an all womens gym and made my cousin go
with me so I
> would have someone to keep me accountable and not let me overdo it.
> Unfortunately with our schedules it hasn't really worked out and we
haven't
> been going BUT I have also done well and only gone a couple times
without
> her.
>
> I'm sorry to hear about your Mom's cancer. I know how rough it can
be to
> deal with your Mom being unwell. My Mom was in the hospital for 4
months
> before she passed away, long story about what happened if you're
interested
> probably it's easier if ya read my blog
(http://momsmyangel.blogspot.com/).
>
> No I've never tried OA, never been real sure of the whole 12 step
thing.
>
> How far from where do I live? OK, sorry I'm getting tired, gotta
get to
> bed. TTYL
>
> Ari
>
>
> >From: Melissa Solomonov <msolomonov2@...>
> >Reply-To: MyEDHelpSupport@yahoogroups.com
> >To: MyEDHelpSupport@yahoogroups.com
> >Subject: Re: [MyEDHelpSupport] Re: Hi
> >Date: Tue, 18 Sep 2007 19:15:40 -0700 (PDT)
> >
> >Hi Ari
> >
> >
> > Thanks so so much for the support. You sound really on track.
Its hard
> >for me to accept it. I have not signed up for the training. I
think I
> >just decided not to.
> >
> > I did sign up to go an all womens gym. The energy in the gym
felt very
> >nice and calm. No competition among men.
> >
> >
> > I so understand the mother thing. I am so sorry their is no
one in your
> >family who understands about ED and relapse. My mother fights me
on it all
> >the time. She says, "why dont you go see a nutritionist and they
can help
> >with the weight" I said "mom its not about the weight" She
doesn't get
> >it.
> >
> > She also has a problem herself and kind of admits it. She
always looks
> >good on the outside and always feel ashamed. Even at my thinner
side I was
> >ashamed. My mother also has cancer and its really rough for me.
> >
> >
> > Have you ever gone to OA the twelve step program. It has
really helped
> >me a lot. I am going to look at some therapists and I will check
out that
> >link.
> >
> > How far do you live.?
> >
> > I am going to committ tonight to not eat in the middle of the
night.
> >
> > Peace and Blessings
> >
> >
> > melissa
> >
> >"Ari ..." <Soccerstar09@...> wrote:
> > Hi Melissa,
> >
> >Well, don't worry about babbling on my account I tend to babble
alot, lol.
> >Oh how I can relate to the distorted eyes off ED. I can also
relate to not
> >having alot of support and feeling alone here (even though I have
lived
> >here
> >for about 5 years the only friends I have are my boyfriend, my
cousin and a
> >few acquaintances). I am originally from Maine and the first time
I sought
> >out treatment and recovery it was all based in Maine. So my whole
support
> >system was based there. I never bothered to establish anything
here in
> >Florida as I felt I was far enough along on the road to recovery
and for
> >awhile I was.
> >
> >After my Mom got over the initial blaming herself, telling me how
selfish
> >my
> >disease was, etc. She began to research ED's and what she
could/couldn't do
> >and was a big support as well. She also came to admit that she
herself had
> >an ED it was just the opposite of mine, she was a compulsive
overeater. But
> >with her gone I am stuck with a family who doesn't understand my
ED and who
> >has not caught on that I am relapsing (other then my cousin and
best friend
> >Cheri) and who consequently I have not confided in because it
would only
> >make matters worse.
> >
> >One thing that I have found very helpful is that I contacted ANAD
> >(anad.org)
> >and they found the closest support group to my area. I looked and
I see
> >they
> >have at least one group in the Jacksonville area so if you're
interested
> >that is a good resource.
> >
> >I think that finding a therapist locally would be a good idea,
even if it
> >is
> >not permanent at least it is a start and they may even be able to
help you
> >find someone when you move.
> >
> >I also have to add that I don't think training would be a very
good idea
> >right now. Your question was if you could do this in a healthy way
with
> >support but you've already mentioned that you don't have a support
system
> >in
> >place here. I challenge you to look at rather it is your mind or
the ED
> >that
> >is saying that training would be your therapy. OK well I've
probably
> >rambeled on long enough and may be way off base, TTYL.
> >
> >Ari
> >
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> >
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> >
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