Melissa,

Glad I'm on track though I do have to say giving advice is always much
easier for me then taking it, lol. I also think that not signing up for the
training sounds like a wise idea right now, good job=)

I had also signed up at an all womens gym and made my cousin go with me so I
would have someone to keep me accountable and not let me overdo it.
Unfortunately with our schedules it hasn't really worked out and we haven't
been going BUT I have also done well and only gone a couple times without
her.

I'm sorry to hear about your Mom's cancer. I know how rough it can be to
deal with your Mom being unwell. My Mom was in the hospital for 4 months
before she passed away, long story about what happened if you're interested
probably it's easier if ya read my blog (http://momsmyangel.blogspot.com/).

No I've never tried OA, never been real sure of the whole 12 step thing.

How far from where do I live? OK, sorry I'm getting tired, gotta get to
bed. TTYL

Ari


>From: Melissa Solomonov <msolomonov2@...>
>Reply-To: MyEDHelpSupport@yahoogroups.com
>To: MyEDHelpSupport@yahoogroups.com
>Subject: Re: [MyEDHelpSupport] Re: Hi
>Date: Tue, 18 Sep 2007 19:15:40 -0700 (PDT)
>
>Hi Ari
>
>
> Thanks so so much for the support. You sound really on track. Its hard
>for me to accept it. I have not signed up for the training. I think I
>just decided not to.
>
> I did sign up to go an all womens gym. The energy in the gym felt very
>nice and calm. No competition among men.
>
>
> I so understand the mother thing. I am so sorry their is no one in your
>family who understands about ED and relapse. My mother fights me on it all
>the time. She says, "why dont you go see a nutritionist and they can help
>with the weight" I said "mom its not about the weight" She doesn't get
>it.
>
> She also has a problem herself and kind of admits it. She always looks
>good on the outside and always feel ashamed. Even at my thinner side I was
>ashamed. My mother also has cancer and its really rough for me.
>
>
> Have you ever gone to OA the twelve step program. It has really helped
>me a lot. I am going to look at some therapists and I will check out that
>link.
>
> How far do you live.?
>
> I am going to committ tonight to not eat in the middle of the night.
>
> Peace and Blessings
>
>
> melissa
>
>"Ari ..." <Soccerstar09@...> wrote:
> Hi Melissa,
>
>Well, don't worry about babbling on my account I tend to babble alot, lol.
>Oh how I can relate to the distorted eyes off ED. I can also relate to not
>having alot of support and feeling alone here (even though I have lived
>here
>for about 5 years the only friends I have are my boyfriend, my cousin and a
>few acquaintances). I am originally from Maine and the first time I sought
>out treatment and recovery it was all based in Maine. So my whole support
>system was based there. I never bothered to establish anything here in
>Florida as I felt I was far enough along on the road to recovery and for
>awhile I was.
>
>After my Mom got over the initial blaming herself, telling me how selfish
>my
>disease was, etc. She began to research ED's and what she could/couldn't do
>and was a big support as well. She also came to admit that she herself had
>an ED it was just the opposite of mine, she was a compulsive overeater. But
>with her gone I am stuck with a family who doesn't understand my ED and who
>has not caught on that I am relapsing (other then my cousin and best friend
>Cheri) and who consequently I have not confided in because it would only
>make matters worse.
>
>One thing that I have found very helpful is that I contacted ANAD
>(anad.org)
>and they found the closest support group to my area. I looked and I see
>they
>have at least one group in the Jacksonville area so if you're interested
>that is a good resource.
>
>I think that finding a therapist locally would be a good idea, even if it
>is
>not permanent at least it is a start and they may even be able to help you
>find someone when you move.
>
>I also have to add that I don't think training would be a very good idea
>right now. Your question was if you could do this in a healthy way with
>support but you've already mentioned that you don't have a support system
>in
>place here. I challenge you to look at rather it is your mind or the ED
>that
>is saying that training would be your therapy. OK well I've probably
>rambeled on long enough and may be way off base, TTYL.
>
>Ari
>
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