I shared awhile back that in my relationships especially with my son
18yrs,and my husband;I was seeing how to change my attitudes and
behaviors. With on slots and stresses pulling me back into the
negativities I was so used to,but unwilling to let my E.D. take
control. It makes sense to me that by not using Ed, the old under
lying emotions and behaviors were still very powerful,It was like they
came flooding back in.I didnt have any power to stop the emotional
wrath I was in no matter how hard I prayed,I didnt even want to do
that.So..the results were divisive and painful, remembering those
are the consequences of my behaviors.It took me a time of rest to
realize-I could practice my new tool of "How to communicate in a
positive way that would defuse the pain I was experiencing.Low and
behold! I found the action to take.It was this-I owned up to my part
of the issue,apologized to them, put the issues out on the
table,asking them how do we work this out together,inviting them to
express they`re point of view.We eventually came up with a
solution.The best part,The anger became defused,I was no longer
fearful,our relationships became connected,we were on the same page
working towards the solution.WOW! I`m thrilled.Now we have something
to practice on......A new steppingstone.......BEV