Hey Kelly,

Wow that's a really tough call. I guess it all depends on how comfortable you feel with the person. When I got together with my EX I wasn't yet relapsing but we had such a connection that I could talk to him and I told him on the second date. NOW when I realized that I WAS relapsing that was a much bigger struggle to tell him about that then it had been to tell him it had been a problem in the past. I guess because there's so much shame and vulnerability involved. It took me well over a month of debating to tell him about the relapse.
I really think this is a play it by ear type of thing. If you have a good connection and he seems very open then it will be easier to tell him. I never contemplated NOT telling my Ex that it had been an issue in the past, because it seemed like it was important for him to know. BUT when it came to telling him about the relapse I DID contemplate not telling him, but that was my own insecurity. Hmmm I am not sure how much help I've been but those are my random thoughts at the moment.

Ari

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To: MyEDHelpSupport@yahoogroups.com
From: kswoodall2001@...
Date: Thu, 1 May 2008 05:48:33 +0000
Subject: [MyEDHelpSupport] dating

Hey, haven't posted for a while! I'm kelly, I'm 25 and I have/had
anorexia. I'm somewhat better.
My question is: I have a date friday night with someone I met online.
He doesn't know yet about my depression and eating disorder! When do I
tell him or do I tell him? And how do I tell him.
Thanks,
Kelly

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