I have a teenage son,18yrs.I could not figure out why he shut down
in our relationship,communication ect....at times he was
explosive,like a bomb ready to go off.Iv`e been working hard on myself
in recovery.One day(as usual)he asked me to take him to the mall,after
I had been running around with him all day,doing his agendas,I was was
so irrigable doing all his stuff,thinking I have a lot of house work
and shopping to get done.Sure enough,he calls an hour later,I had just
started to eat my lunch.So on my way to get him,A thought came to
me,It wont be long that he will be on his own,when I arrive instead of
making him feel like a burden I will greet him with a big smile and
just say hi sweetheart.My entire attitude changed,the stress was
defused,so was his also.Now I use that tool a lot,I rethink,how can I
communicate to others in a way that produces positive results?All my
relationships are are changing,a steppingstone in my life.Now my
husband and I are also using it in our relationship and with him and
others.It became a practice and discipline in our lives.Hope this
helps...........steppingstones........BEV