Last week we had our Valley Chapter meeting of the IHF. The meeting
was on weight loss and we shared some ideas and concepts.

During the discussions I listened and noticed a common belief being
spread around during the discussion.

Let me begin by saying that this is just a question that I would like
to bring to the front and not a right or wrong idea.

If a client comes to you and says that they want you to help them
work on something but they are not willing to really give it up
according to your questions or they are not open to doing what you
say will you refuse to work with them at all?

Example - A client comes in and says they want to quit smoking.
During the pretalk you ask them if they are ready to stop and they
say no but they want to work on it anyway and see if you can help
them. Do you refuse to work with them and tell them to call you back
when they decide to stop? Do you work with them according to their
desire right then? Do you make a judgement that they will not be
successful so it is a waste of time and tell them that or just take
their money but know inside your own thoughts that they will not be
successful?

Take a minute now to think about this a little bit and see if there
are some situations in which you make the judgement according to your
own beliefs what will work.

Bet most of us do at one time or another.

Now consider this for just a minute. Is our job to help a client
according to their belief or ours? If a client comes to see us is
there a possibility that we can help them because they took that step
to do something? Do you really believe that everyone that comes to
see us is ready for whatever we say and they accept it all in the
first place? Do you think that your job is to find the answers or to
help uncover the answers in the client?

Granted that some of you might work on the idea of intuition but then
again are we healing ourselves or helping our clients and that area I
am not working with myself.

I know that unless the client is unstable and needs licensed medical
care I have stopped making the assumption myself. I will also say
that since making this decision years ago my buisiness is more
successful and my clients receive more open sessions. I inform them
that the change is depending on them but I do not make the assumption
anymore on what will work. My job is to find what does work for each
client and to provide them the service they requested in the end. I
will leave the judgements to the licensed medical team. They diagnose
I just empower and find solutions.

Michael