Mark,

I'm sorry to hear that you are going to have to go to a nursing home
but happy to hear that some other young people will be there too. I
wish you the best of luck. Let us know how things work out.

Nick

--- In Incont@yahoogroups.com, mark carter <mark.carter001@...> wrote:
>
>  Hi there
>






Hello
sorry to hear about going to the home
I hope something works out that you can stay with your parents
living in a home good or bad is not the same as living in your
parents house or your own home
and may take some getting used to.
keep us posted.








>   As you all know i live at home with my mum and dad i am 17 years
old and 3 years ago i became disabled due to a infection. Well my
care is getting too intence and i am needing alot of help from
nurseing staff out side our house mum or dad  has to call in to help
them out so the plan is that i will be moving to a nurseing home for
teenagers that have disablitys can go to to live the place is close
so mum and dad can visit me every day i am ok with it i think it
would be good to take the stane of mum and dad at times so i will
update you when this is going to happen.
>
>
>   Mark
>
>
> ---------------------------------
>  Yahoo! Answers - Get better answers from someone who knows. Tryit
now.
>

Hi John and others,
I too have had urine retention issues that have been
treated by my Urologist. In my case, we elected PVP
(photovaporization of the prostate). This procedure did
help for about the first 24 months, but as predictable,
some symptoms of the previous problem are recurring.

I'm writing to ask if anyone here has experience with a (relatively
new?) prostatic stent called "The Spanner" (see www dot TheSpanner
dot com) www.TheSpanner.com This is a removable, temporary stenting
device designed to help manage urine retention due to BPH.

Before going for the PVP surgery, I asked my Urologist about a stent,
but he wasn't keen on doing one.  In retrospect, I wonder if he
didn't want to do one because the PVP was a more lucrative procedure
than installing a simple stent.

Assuming the recurring symptoms will worsen, I think I will simply
insist on a stent (perhaps The Spanner) as a less-invasive and less
traumatic intervention next time. I have become accustomed to wearing
diapers 24/7 from the previous episodes and I would, frankly, much
rather deal with a continuous dribble into diapers than go through
another PVP or similar, traumatic procedure.

Any experienced feedback on this would be greatly appreciated -- re:
any men who have experience using The Spanner and doctors/referrals
in or near the Washington DC and/or Baltimore MD areas who are
knowledgable and can provide a consult.

Thanks!
Paul
pjwasho@...

--- In Incont@yahoogroups.com, "pamprbaby" <pamprbaby@...> wrote:
>
> Hi Everyone,
> My name is John and I am a new member. I have been dealing with
> incontinence in varying degrees since the mid 1980s after a
> motorcycle accident. I am bladder incontinent due to nerve damage
> from the accident. It started out light and got worse as time went
> by. I was told by the doctors when it first happened that this
might
> happen and it did. The one thing that has happened recently is that
> my bladder is starting to retain fluids to the point that my
bladder
> has been stretching. Imagine being incontinent and then not be able
> to pee. I dont wish this on anyone. The pain is overwhelming.
> Anyway...I can talk more about it later for anyone who has
questions
> but I went to my doctor and he said I have a "paralyzed bladder"
and
> I should think about having a stent put in to keep me from having
> renal failure if my bladder doesnt empty when it should.
> I am concerned that if I get a stent put in that I would lose
control
> of my bowels which I dont want to have happen.
> Is there anyone....nurse or doctor or someone who may have one,
> please give me some adive on what I should do.
>
> Thanks,
> John
>

Hello everyone,
Similar to John who wrote earlier this month for feedback on
his doctor's advice to have a urethral stent installed, I too
have had urine retention issues that required treatment by a
Urologist. In my case, we elected PVP (photovaporization of the
prostate). This procedure did help for about the first 24 months,
but as predictable, some symptoms of the previous problem are now
recurring.

I'm writing to ask if anyone here has experience with a (relatively
new?) prostatic stent called "The Spanner" (see www dot TheSpanner
dot com) www.TheSpanner.com This is a removable, temporary stenting
device designed to help manage urine retention due to BPH.

Before going for the PVP surgery, I asked my Urologist about a stent,
but he wasn't keen on doing one.  In retrospect, I wonder if he
didn't want to do one because the PVP was a more lucrative procedure
than installing a simple stent.

Assuming the recurring symptoms will worsen, I think I will simply
insist on a stent (perhaps The Spanner) as a less-invasive and less
traumatic intervention next time. I have become accustomed to wearing
diapers 24/7 from the previous episodes and I would, frankly, much
rather deal with a continuous dribble into diapers than go through
another PVP or similar, traumatic procedure.

Any experienced feedback on this would be greatly appreciated -- re:
any men who have experience using The Spanner and doctors/referrals
in or near the Washington DC and/or Baltimore MD areas who are
knowledgable and can provide a consult.

Thanks!
Paul
pjwasho@...

Hello i am a young guy (25) who has incontinence, im glad for the
support out there! If anyone is one FACEBOOK i just started a group
called INCONTINENCE SUPPORT GROUP. So please join it!!!

24th October 2007
Hi its Christopher from Colchester, Essex uk

Thank you all for your help regarding my message left on this site on
22.10.07.

I will give the Abena Abri Form X plus a try.
I hope I can find a supplier here in the United Kindom who stocks
them.

My wife would like the help of this web site if anyone in the United
Kindom stocks disposable pull ups to fit hips 66 to 76 inch hips ?

Here in the UK the contience service does not agree with adult
nappies for the disabled but the doctors are on my side.  It comes to
something when the contience service tells the doctors to stick to
there jobs and let the contience service do theres.  Being disabled I
should get adult nappies free from the contience service but the
contience service are discriminateing against me. I will not give in.
Regards to all,

Christopher.

Yep, Abri-Form X-Plus are the best adult briefs on the market right
now. You can also get them from:

XP Medical: http://www.xpmedical.com/id.html

Drugstore: http://click.linksynergy.com/fs-bin/click?
id=N7mC9kx2*JA&offerid=43440.10000062&type=4&subid=0

Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect?tag=ecnadmedia-
20&path=subst/home/home.html

---

To: Incont@yahoogroups.com
From: christopher.mattison@...
Date: Mon, 22 Oct 2007 17:22:46 +0000
Subject: [Incont] Support Group for wheelchair users who also use adult nappies.

22nd October 2007
Hi my name is Christopher, I am a new member to this site. I am
disabled and also a wheelchair user. I would like the help of this
website is anyone can help is able to tell me which is the best
disposable all-in-one adult disposable nappy for long periods in a
wheelchair.

As I have only half a right hand side hip socket I do have to use
adult nappies I would like to join a support group.

If anyone has any ideas including wheelchair users please send your
replies to this website. My e mail address is
christopher.mattison@yahoo.com

Anyone that uses adult nappies has my support.

I am located in Colchester, Essex.

Regards
Christopher Mattison

22nd October 2007
Hi my name is Christopher, I am a new member to this site. I am
disabled and also a wheelchair user. I would like the help of this
website is anyone can help is able to tell me which is the best
disposable all-in-one adult disposable nappy for long periods in a
wheelchair.

As I have only half a right hand side hip socket I do have to use
adult nappies I would like to join a support group.

If anyone has any ideas including wheelchair users please send your
replies to this website. My e mail address is
christopher.mattison@...

Anyone that uses adult nappies has my support.

I am located in Colchester, Essex.

Regards
Christopher Mattison

Hi i would agree with you I was diagnosed with prostate cancer at
31,and have been incontient since,and no i don't get off with the
AB/DL sites. I wont cath due to UTI's,and yes i would rather be in a
diaper. Oh by the way due to my cancer i no longer can get an
erection without a pill,but boy that lady is sure crazy if she thinks
just cause guys are young and in diapers that we are perverts. I
would give anything to wear underwear,and not take viagra. sorry to
rant ,but i was mad and had to vent! thanks for listening  adam--- In
Incont@yahoogroups.com, "????" <disdiaperboy@...> wrote:
>
> Since someone feels like they are high an mighty let me make a broad
> generalization.
>
> "want to talk to women"= "I am a 90 year old man who only talks to
women
> online because the parole officer told me I can't have sex with the
little
> girl next door anymore"
>
> There are young, functional, incontinent people. I talk about
diapers
> because they are a better option then cathing (yeah I loved the 3
UTIs a
> week) or surgery (only a 30% chance of making me better).
>
> I also work at a hospital and head they incontinence support group
and this
> is what I have found.
>
> Most women think they are better then other people in the group
because they
> only have "mild" incontinence while the men with mild think they
are equal.
>
> So from what Petiala was saying, though interpretation " I am an AB
male in
> my 50's looking for a women who is incontinent I can oogle like the
women in
> the porno I bought off of E-Bay"
>
> PLEASE NO MORE BROAD GENERALIZATIONS.
>
> Sorry my French is bad but
> --------------------------------------------------------------------
---------
> --------------------------------------------------------------------
---------
> --------------------------------
> Puisque quelqu'un se sent comme ils sont hauts un puissant me
laissent
> faites une large généralisation.
>
> "voulez parler les femmes" = "moi suis un homme âgé de 90 ans qui
parle
> seulement aux femmes en ligne parce que l'officier de liberté
conditionnelle
> m'a dit que je NE peux avoir Le sexe avec la prochaine porte de
petite fille
> plus"
>
> Il y a les jeunes, fonctionnels, incontinents. Je parle Des couches-
culottes
> parce qu'elles sont une meilleure option cathing alors (ouais j'ai
aimé les
> 3 UTIs par semaine) ou chirurgie (seulement une chance de 30% de me
faire
> mieux).
>
> J'également travaille à un hôpital et les dirige groupe de soutien d
> incontinence et EST ce ce que j'ai trouvé.
>
> La plupart Des femmes pensent elles sont meilleures puis d'autres
dans Le
> groupe parce qu'elles Ont seulement l'incontinence "douce" tandis
que les
> hommes avec doux pensent qu'ils sont égaux.
>
> Ainsi quel Petiala indiquait, bien que l'interprétation "je sois un
mâle de
> AB en mes années 50 recherchant Des femmes qui EST incontinent
j'oogle de
> bidon comme les femmes dans Le porno j'ai acheté au loin du l'E-
Compartiment
>
>
> SVP PLUS DE LARGES GÉNÉRALISATIONS.
>

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I am new to this goup. I am 46, married. I have a colostomy and a
neurogenic bladder. I had a sphincterotomy in January of 2007.

Most of "young" incontinents are rather diaper fetishists..... They like wearing diapers and pee in them....  A lot of these fetishists were enuretic in the past. And have kept some nostalgia of this "good old time".

 

Diaper fetishists or "diaper-lovers" DL read many groups about incontinence subject.

 

In these groups it's almost only speaking about diapers..... and not about incontinence cure - therapy

 

They hope to chat with truly incontinent girls and often they write to another DL boy, who pose as a girl.....

 

Funny.....

 

Sorry for my poor english, I'm french....

Petiala

 

 

 

 

----- Original Message -----

From: Mikel

To: Incont@yahoogroups.com

Sent: Saturday, October 13, 2007 8:16 PM

Subject: [Incont] New Member from Bloomington, IL Male in 40's

Hi,  I just discovered this Incontinence support group while doing a related yahoo group search.

I had no idea that there were nearly so many relatively younger working folks that have the condition.

My incontinence bagan as a complication from another surgery.  I have been dealing with incontinence for nearly 8 years now.  I work in the medical field and have tried a variety of incontinence appliances and diapers.    I currently wear pullups under my underwear with Size 5 Huggies Overnight diapers as liners.   I have to change every 3-4 hours.   It's certainly not a full proof or leak proof solution   but it beats pain, skin breakdown,  & torture of other devices!

I like like what I read on this group.  If anyone has questions or advice for me, I'm all ears! ......Mikel

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----- Original Message -----

From: Mikel

To: Incont@yahoogroups.com

Sent: Saturday, October 13, 2007 8:16 PM

Subject: [Incont] New Member from Bloomington, IL Male in 40's

Hi,  I just discovered this Incontinence support group while doing a related yahoo group search.

I had no idea that there were nearly so many relatively younger working folks that have the condition.

My incontinence bagan as a complication from another surgery.  I have been dealing with incontinence for nearly 8 years now.  I work in the medical field and have tried a variety of incontinence appliances and diapers.    I currently wear pullups under my underwear with Size 5 Huggies Overnight diapers as liners.   I have to change every 3-4 hours.   It's certainly not a full proof or leak proof solution   but it beats pain, skin breakdown,  & torture of other devices!

I like like what I read on this group.  If anyone has questions or advice for me, I'm all ears! ......Mikel

Hi Mike,
Welcome to the group. Like you I had recently discovered this support
group.
Yes there are alot of incontinent people of all ages and for different
reasons. As for myself its a result of a motorcycle accident.

Question for you......
I usually double diaper myself by making a slit if the first diaper and
then covering it with another. In the evening or at home I wear several
layers of diapers because I dont have to worry about trying to hide
them so I spent most of my time in just diapers and tshirts at home.

I never tried actually using baby diapers as booster pads....how are
they?

Again....welcome to the group.

PamprBaby.....John

Thanks for ttthe info Mike. This helps a lot. One stupid question, how
to retrieve e-mail from this site?
John

Thanks for ttthe info Mike. This helps a lot. One stupid question, how
to retrieve e-mail from this site?
John

John,
I read your post and had to respond. You won't loose control of your
bowels. I too have bladder problems and retain fluid in my bladder.
Retaining fluid in my bladder has caused me to have numerous bladder
infections due to retention also bladder spasms have caused the
doctor to worry about urine backing up into my kidneys. If your
doctor puts in a stent you will be constantly dripping into whatever
collection device you decide on, ie diapers texas catheter, etc. To
me the texas catheter is not a choice and diapers are great BUT,
have you ever tried changing a diaper in a rest room on a plane? I
also don't like most public rest rooms. (I'm extremely active and
travel quite a bit for my job). Anyway for me what me and the doctor
decided on is intermittent catheterization 4X a day and when I
travel I use a foley with a belly bag. I've been taking care of
myself this way for a few years now. I still wear diapers 24/7
unless I'm using a foley. I could go on about this but won't. Feel
free to email me at miar56@....
Mike A.




--- In Incont@yahoogroups.com, "pamprbaby" <pamprbaby@...> wrote:
>
> Hi Everyone,
> My name is John and I am a new member. I have been dealing with
> incontinence in varying degrees since the mid 1980s after a
> motorcycle accident. I am bladder incontinent due to nerve damage
> from the accident. It started out light and got worse as time went
> by. I was told by the doctors when it first happened that this
might
> happen and it did. The one thing that has happened recently is
that
> my bladder is starting to retain fluids to the point that my
bladder
> has been stretching. Imagine being incontinent and then not be
able
> to pee. I dont wish this on anyone. The pain is overwhelming.
> Anyway...I can talk more about it later for anyone who has
questions
> but I went to my doctor and he said I have a "paralyzed bladder"
and
> I should think about having a stent put in to keep me from having
> renal failure if my bladder doesnt empty when it should.
> I am concerned that if I get a stent put in that I would lose
control
> of my bowels which I dont want to have happen.
> Is there anyone....nurse or doctor or someone who may have one,
> please give me some adive on what I should do.
>
> Thanks,
> John
>

Hi Mike,
Welcome to the group. Like you I had recently discovered this support
group.
Yes there are alot of incontinent people of all ages and for different
reasons. As for myself its a result of a motorcycle accident.

Question for you......
I usually double diaper myself by making a slit if the first diaper and
then covering it with another. In the evening or at home I wear several
layers of diapers because I dont have to worry about trying to hide
them so I spent most of my time in just diapers and tshirts at home.

I never tried actually using baby diapers as booster pads....how are
they?

Again....welcome to the group.

PamprBaby.....John

Hi Paul....Brew,
Thankyou for the link. Lots of valuable info there and I am going to
read it more closely once I am done writing this to you and the group.
Why I thought about losing control of my bowels stems from the comments
I see like "complete incontinence"....I guess that led me to believe
that it ment everything.....LOL. I feel a bit stupid.
Oh well......it took many years to get a sense of humor all was not
perfect in the land of John for many years after my accident. I will
post a bit more about myself and things that have made me who I am
today.

Again....thank you for the information and taking the time to respond
to my post.

Take Care,
PamprBaby.....John

Hi,  I just discovered this Incontinence support group while doing a related yahoo group search.

I had no idea that there were nearly so many relatively younger working folks that have the condition.

My incontinence bagan as a complication from another surgery.  I have been dealing with incontinence for nearly 8 years now.  I work in the medical field and have tried a variety of incontinence appliances and diapers.    I currently wear pullups under my underwear with Size 5 Huggies Overnight diapers as liners.   I have to change every 3-4 hours.   It's certainly not a full proof or leak proof solution   but it beats pain, skin breakdown,  & torture of other devices!

I like like what I read on this group.  If anyone has questions or advice for me, I'm all ears! ......Mikel

--- In Incont@yahoogroups.com, "pamprbaby" <pamprbaby@...> wrote:

Hi, John!  Welcome to the group.

> My name is John and I am a new member. I have been dealing with
> incontinence in varying degrees since the mid 1980s after a
> motorcycle accident. I am bladder incontinent due to nerve damage
> from the accident. It started out light and got worse as time went
> by. I was told by the doctors when it first happened that this
might
> happen and it did. The one thing that has happened recently is
that
> my bladder is starting to retain fluids to the point that my
bladder
> has been stretching. Imagine being incontinent and then not be
able
> to pee. I dont wish this on anyone. The pain is overwhelming.
> Anyway...I can talk more about it later for anyone who has
questions
> but I went to my doctor and he said I have a "paralyzed bladder"
and
> I should think about having a stent put in to keep me from having
> renal failure if my bladder doesnt empty when it should.

I'd refer you to this site:
http://www.americanmedicalsystems.com/prof_male_detail_objectname_pro
_male_urolume_ure_stent.html

which is the page for the Urolume stent.  There is a lot of
information about it there.

However, you should also discuss this completely with your
urologist.  He will be able to clarify any questions you may have
concerning the stent.  If you're armed with information before
seeing him, and take along a list of questions as well, you'll be a
much more informed medical consumer.  You'll appreciate that and the
uro will as well.

> I am concerned that if I get a stent put in that I would lose
control
> of my bowels which I dont want to have happen.
> Is there anyone....nurse or doctor or someone who may have one,
> please give me some adive on what I should do.

I can't imagine any reason that you would become bowel incontinent
from a urethral stent, barring (of course) gross incompetence by the
physician.  Urethral stent placement doesn't get close (medically
speaking) to the anal sphincter, so you should be fine.

I'm not a nurse nor doctor, and I don't have a stent, but have been
doing medical x-ray for MANY years, and have a personal interest in
things urological.  Hope this info helps.

Paul G
AKA Brew

John,   The names that are lit up, are people who are online.  Bouncing means that the member has an email account that is full & has reached its full capacity & is unable to receive any more emails.   Some Yahoo groups have chatrooms available.  I don't believe this group does, but I could be mistaken.   Hope this helps some.   .....mike
--- In Incont@yahoogroups.com, "johnjapo" <johnjapo@...> wrote:
>
> I am a 50 yr old man, married, but somewhat computer illiterate guy who
> must do the old search and peck to type. noticed going through the
> members that it indicates most are off line but a few are lit up. Also,
> many are marked bouncing? What does this mean? Also, if they are on
> line, is this also a chat room or something like that? Sorry, but when
> it comes to computers, Im pretty much a dummy. Anyways, Hi to you all.
>

Hi Everyone,
My name is John and I am a new member. I have been dealing with
incontinence in varying degrees since the mid 1980s after a
motorcycle accident. I am bladder incontinent due to nerve damage
from the accident. It started out light and got worse as time went
by. I was told by the doctors when it first happened that this might
happen and it did. The one thing that has happened recently is that
my bladder is starting to retain fluids to the point that my bladder
has been stretching. Imagine being incontinent and then not be able
to pee. I dont wish this on anyone. The pain is overwhelming.
Anyway...I can talk more about it later for anyone who has questions
but I went to my doctor and he said I have a "paralyzed bladder" and
I should think about having a stent put in to keep me from having
renal failure if my bladder doesnt empty when it should.
I am concerned that if I get a stent put in that I would lose control
of my bowels which I dont want to have happen.
Is there anyone....nurse or doctor or someone who may have one,
please give me some adive on what I should do.

Thanks,
John

I am a 50 yr old man, married, but somewhat computer illiterate guy who
must do the old search and peck to type. noticed going through the
members that it indicates most are off line but a few are lit up. Also,
many are marked bouncing? What does this mean? Also, if they are on
line, is this also a chat room or something like that? Sorry, but when
it comes to computers, Im pretty much a dummy. Anyways, Hi to you all.

--- In Incont@yahoogroups.com, "Angela Fattig" <ds_online_info@...>
wrote:
>
> Hi my name is Angie. I am 29 years old. I have suffered most of my
> life with a lot of different health problems. After having my
second
> child I noticed I was having problems with my bladder during the
day.
> Sudden urges, more often and dribbling. I figured it was due to
having
> 2 babys almost back to back. I did a lot of excerise to help
control
> it and it never seemed to work. Well my youngest is 7 yrs old now
and
> just a few months back I started wetting to bed. I will wake while
I
> am in the middle of unrinating and cant stop it.
> I just got my first bag of Depends yesterday. It is so embarriseing
> (sp). I did some reserch on the internet and saw where it might
have
> something to do with my Neuro. problems. I cant afford to go to the
> doctor and its been at least 3 yrs since I was able to. I am
working
> on saving money so I can go but till then I was hoping you fine
people
> could guide me and have some ideas as to how to help. I stress over
it
> and I am getting real depressed. It is affecting my sleep and my
> realationship with my husband.
> Any help would be greatful.
> Thanks
> Angie
>
Angie,
You have already started on the road to solving your problem. No
problem can be solved until you admit you have one. I dont know where
you live that you must pay to see a doctor, but that is important.
Also, if you have bought your first bag of briefs, you are doing what
you can for now. Most important, talk to you husband. I mean really
talk to him. Building on deception will never last but a relationship
built on open honest communication will endure any serious problems.
I know you think this situation is serious but believe me, you are
making a mountain out of a mole hill. If your husband cant see that
you would really be better off finding that out now but I am sure he
will understand and help you in ways you could never imagine. Give
him a chance.
John