Mike, thank you for your very kind words.  I feel the need to speak because I know, like all us, the personal humiliation, married and/or single, that this does have "control" over our lives, 24/7. 

 

There are countless ads on tv for all types of incontinence products....a new one here in the US where it is a "male"....instead of the females "gota go, gotta go, gotta go"....and that new commercial does point out.....it's not "just female incontinence" as we get into and/or past menopause.....guys have incontinence problems, too.   However, as you know...a permament cause is a permanent lifestyle.....and I CAN understand the scenerio.....I actually had "friends"......females....who were a little "leary" when this was done to me...."pull away".....i.e., not invite me OUT to lunch, etc as we had prior...and I put 2 +2 together and realized why.....or sitting in evening Bible study with me pulling down on the sides of the diaper and my belly sticking out...the diaper...not me.....seeing me not wear nice fitting clothes to looking like a balloon because of the "expansion" around the "lower 40" from the diaper underneath......and that ALL contributed to a VERY depressed emotional situation for me......because medically, this NEVER should have been done, in the first place.

 

Whatever my lot, Thou has taught me to say....it is well with my soul."....and, trust me..there are constant times in the past 2 1/2 years, I have said....."it is not well with my soul right now....I'm too "down" from dealing with this.

 

Mike, again, thank you.......I FEEL your hug.  I hope you feel mine back.  We need to all help the man in Penn feel GOOD about himself again.  We can.

 

Melody