Hi niuhuskie629,

I have been traveling and I was unable to post a reply so please
forgive my tardiness.

I became incontinent in 1996 or at least that is when the bedwetting
started. My wife, then of five years was very understanding, but I
was angry. Well, very angry, and I unfortunately let my anger be
expressed by being verbally abusive. I had tried condom catheters
and was excessively unhappy with the results. She suggested
diapers, and I went ballistic. I loved my wife however and sought
counseling. Perhaps that is what your husband should do. The first
time I wore a diaper to bed I leaked because I had no idea on how to
put it on. My wife helped me tighten it up the second night. At
the time I was using the depend overnights and the whole experience
was foreign to me. Her helping me get "diapered" really ticked me
off. I was mad because I wasn't looking for that kind of help. The
psychologist helped me get over the anger. When I finally stopped
being angry it got easier, it took about 6 months for me to come to
grips with it though. I couldn't understand what kept my wife from
leaving me because of how I treated her, of course at the time I
blamed our issues on the diapers, but she stuck it out, just like
you. You are very brave and very loving to hang in there, it shows
a lot of courage. My wife has found ways of helping me feel better
about the whole incontinence ordeal so if you or your husband would
like to email us just use this email for starters and we'd be happy
to help you and your husband through this difficult time. Even if
you'd like a woman's perspective she's offered to send you her
private email too. Just let us know. In the mean time we'll keep
you in our prayers.

Good Luck,

Mike aka jd_3rd@...


--- In Incont@yahoogroups.com, "niuhuskie629" <niuhuskie629@y...>
wrote:
>
> Hello everyone,
> I am married to a wonderful man (we're both 32 years old) who has
> recently started wetting the bed at night because of a traumatic
> event he was involved in recently. (He only has urinary problems at
> night.) He has been wearing diapers to help, but he is unable to
> get them on tight enough so that they don't leak at night. I have
> been helping him put them on, which he says he appreciates, but he
> cries every night when I put one on for him. (They have not leaked
> since I've started doing this for him.) He is convinced I'm going
to
> leave him over this, and even though I've told him a thousand times
> that I love him more than anything in the world and would never
> leave him over something as trivial as this, he is still so
insecure
> about it. I need help - I just don't know what to do. Sometimes it
> feels like holding him and telling him that I'll always love him no
> matter what just doesn't seem to be enough. I'm really worried
> about him. Hopefully someone here will be able to give me some
> advice!