Greetings,

I come from a family that has a few incontinence issues: namely my
mother, sister, and an uncle or two. Never had to wear diapers myself
growing up, and nobody in my family ever did either, even though a
few should perhaps be in them from time to time. Too much pride.

With myself I started developing problems with prostatism, which
makes it very difficult to void urine, always left in pain with a
spasming bladder, at the age of 21. Sometimes I had to go to the
washroom every 5 minutes or on the hour it would seem. Just to attend
lectures and not sit on the toilet all day, I had to start wearing
pads and diapers. I did this at first while complaining to my doctor
at university, while not complaining to them directly about
incontinence issues. We went through tests, ultrasounds, etcetera,
and nothing could be done about it. I was offered surgery, but
everyone including myself preferred to wait atleast a year to see how
long it would last.

Today, about 7 years later, I now have prostatism here and there, but
it is often quite rare. But my bladder has suffered a lot over the
years, and has developed some odd habits, wanting to void every hour
or more - 8-30 times a day. So now I mostly have urge incontinence,
needing to go to the washroom all of a sudden . . . That is my
bladder can completely empty, but it needs to do so very often.

I'm working on better habits to control my bladder. This can be
difficult since I do a lot of construction work and am usually
physically exhausted. But on the plus side, I ussually work outdoors,
and can urinate almost anywhere like a barbarian, feeling free to
pull my pants down and go almost anywhere.

I still wear diapers though on occasion, like when I'm at home just
to make life more convenient. Because I sometimes wet the bed now 1-2
times a week, which I never did before. And I feel that I'd rather
use them in public, like when out shopping and stuff, when I can't
just pull my pants down and go. So in a lot of ways it is quite
confining. Trying to balance this problem between my home life and
work life can be difficult. But I do a lot of yoga in a studio, kegel
exercises, etcetera, and this really has helped.

Socially this problem, however, is quite aggravating. I've lived in
Toronto, Ontario, for 4 years now, and have not made any friends. I
just have 3 roomates who know I wear diapers and use the washroom a
lot, and sometimes snicker politely behind my back. Nothing is ever
said . . . Anyhow, I've learned how to be alone a lot, and to enjoy a
lot of privacy. I've had to.

Anyhow, would like to meet and talk with others who have the same
issues.

Sincerely,

Matt G