MEANINGS AND FEELINGS

Stanley Schachter set up the following experiment: He first divided
his experimental subjects into two groups and gave them all a shot
of adrenaline. Then the subjects mingled with Schachter's assistants,
whom the subjects had been led to believe were given a shot too.

In one group, the assistants acted as if they were experiencing anxiety.
In the other group, the assistants acted excited and happy. Asked what
the shot had done to them, subjects in the first group
said the adrenaline shot made them feel anxious; subjects in the
second group said the adrenaline made them feel excited and elated.

The way the assistants acted influenced the way the subjects interpreted
their experience. And it was their interpretations
that made their experience pleasant or unpleasant. The adrenaline
shot was the same in both groups, and caused the same effects: it
made their hearts pound, dilated their eyes, sent glucose to the
muscles, and shut down the digestive tract.

Both groups experienced the same physical changes, but the way the
assistants acted created a different meaning for the physical changes,
and those meanings made the difference between anxiety and elation.

Change the meaning of an experience and the experience changes.

The late Viktor Frankl, a psychiatrist and a survivor of Hitler's
concentration camps, often changed the meaning of events for his
patients, and it changed their lives. For example, an elderly and
severely depressed man came to see Frankl. His wife had died and
she had meant more to him than anything in the world.

"What would have happened," Frankl asked the man, "if you had died
first, and your wife would have survived you?"

The man answered: "Oh, for her this would have been terrible; how
she would have suffered!"

"You see," said Frankl, "such a suffering has been spared her, and
it is you who have spared her this suffering; but now, you have to
pay for it by surviving and mourning her."

The man didn't say anything. He shook Dr. Frankl's hand and calmly left.

Frankl wrote:
Suffering ceases to be suffering in some way at the moment it finds
a meaning, such as the meaning of a sacrifice.

The meanings you make in your life can be the difference between anxiety
and elation, between hopelessness and courage, between
failure and success, and even, as Frankl discovered in the concentration
camps, between living and dying.

You have some control over the way you interpret the events of
your life. The meanings of events are not written in stone. You
can create more useful meanings for yourself. All it takes is a
little thought.

Adam Khan
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Adam Khan, co-founder of YouMe Works Publishing, is the author of
Self-Help Stuff That Works, a collection of 120 short chapters on taking
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