I have been peeking at the posts here and there, but not responding really because I have not really been feeling well. So let me say welcome to the Newest members that I have missed.

 

I was very sad to hear of Chucks and Rhoda's passing. Please know you and your families are in my prayers. I know this is a very sad time for all of you and you are in my heart and in my prayers always.

 

I had my bladder surgery. The surgery itself went well. At first it seemed it might be helping, but now I see it has not made that much of a difference and I am still in pain. So after my hernia surgery I will be starting treatments for my bladder. I'm not looking forward to that, but don't know what else to do.

 

My hernia surgery is scheduled for Friday the 14th at 7:00 am. Please keep me in  your prayers as I am still unsure how I am going to manage after the surgery. As you all know I have no help around here and my is now 20 months old, plus both my parents are ill. Now my dad can for the most care for himself as long as he is not having a bad day. So pray he has no bad days while I am down. The dr. says the first two weeks I am not allowed to do anything at all, and then the following 3 to 4 weeks no lifting anything over 15 pounds. Well, my mom is 125 lbs and my daughter is 25 lbs, and God forbid my dad has a bad day he is 160 lbs. I do have my 12 year old son if worse come to worse and he is home from school, but I absolutely hate to ask him to help with those things. I know how stressful it is for me, and I can only imagine the kind of stress it puts on him and so I try really hard not put it on him. With this surgery though if someone doesn't step up to the plate and someone has to be lifted I don't know what else I'm gonna do. So PLEASE pray that someone will step up and HELP me this time. I do not want a repeat of my hysterectomy and rip my incision open because I was left to handle all of it on my own. The majority of my family is so damn selfish it's rediculous. I asked one of aunt's who doesn't work, who is young and healthy, who has no children, who has an abundance of energy, who would've been perfect to help me, she said yeah she would help, and then two days later called me and wanted to know how much I would pay her. When I told her I couldn't pay her and she said she would have to ask her husband and I never heard back from her. That was over a month ago. Most of my family just came up with excuses of why they couldn't do it, and most of their excuses were bull.

 

You know what really BURNS MY BUTT, my mom and dad might be my parents and I don't mind taking care of them, but..........they are other people's family to...........do you get what I am saying here........where are they.........why the **** can't they come and take care of them some...........it's not like I'm asking them to come and take care of them all the time..........I just need a break for this surgery so I don't injure myself and have tmie to heal properly.........if they'd all pitch in they could do it in shifts and it would not be such a big deal.

 

Well enough complaining. Just had to vent a little. Will let you know how my surgery goes when I am up to it.

 

Thanks,

Rhonda