Hi Mary,
Good to hear from you!

I know from reading some of the responses here on this site that
grief for those that were primary caregivers to their loved one that
died is especially hard.

Not only did you lose your Mom, whom you loved so much, but also you
lost the opportunity to care for her when she was ailing.

When "they" say that times heals all wounds, I think many of us
interpret that to mean "I'll feel like I did before this loss in a
matter of time." Then our minds (and sometimes others) put pressure
on us to just get over it, or that it's been a long time and we
shouldn't still be feeling like this.

But the reality is that we can't lose someone so special and not
have it affect us for the rest of our lives. Somehow we have to
allow the feelings of hurt from loss to turn to turn to something
more manageable for our daily life.

Mary, what encouragement do you think your Mom would give you if she
knew you felt this way? What are some of things she would say to you
when you were down?

And lastly, at this time of year when we prepare to celebrate the
resurrection, I share these words from the Scriptures:

1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 But we do not want you to be uninformed,
brethren, about those who are asleep, that you may not grieve, as do
the rest who have no hope. 14 For if we believe that Jesus died and
rose again, even so God will bring with Him those who have fallen
asleep in Jesus. 15 For this we say to you by the word of the Lord,
that we who are alive, and remain until the coming of the Lord,
shall not precede those who have fallen asleep. 16 For the Lord
Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the
archangel, and with the trumpet of God; and the dead in Christ shall
rise first. 17 Then we who are alive and remain shall be caught up
together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and
thus we shall always be with the Lord. 18 Therefore comfort one
another with these words.

Mary, God be with you today, and with all others reading this.

John


--- In Grief_Group@yahoogroups.com, Mary McGarvey <mary080454@...>
wrote:
>
> Hi John,
> Thanks for writing to me..
> I took care of Mom for 3 years before she died.She had heart
probelms.She was my whole life and now I am just so lost with out
her.They say time heals all but I donoy any time can heal the hole
in my heart.
> mary
>
> J Hum <jhum07@...> wrote:
> Hi Mary,
> Thanks for writing. I'm really sorry to hear about the loss of
your Mom. Anniversaries are very hard.
>
>
> Mary, if it would be helpful for you, would you please tell us
about your Mom? Maybe how she died, how close you two were?
>
> Again, thanks for joining us here and may the Lord bless you.
>
> John
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> mary080454 <mary080454@...> wrote:
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> Hi Every one,
>
> My name is Mary, I joined this group yesterday hoping
to
> find some help dealing with grief..I lossed My Mom 2 years ago
this
> month and I donot know ho to deal with it any more.
>
> I need somme one to talk to...
>
> Any adise woud be helpful Thanks Mary
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