Hi Theresa,

Sorry I've not responded as quickly as I would have liked to.

I didn't lose my grandmother this Christmas. In fact, it's been a
few, but I do miss her still.

We had a special bond. My grandfather didn't treat her great and
after he died, she had a much better life.

I had her on my heart and so I visted her just before she died. I
was living a couple of states away at the time so I had to make a
special trip, but I felt strongly that I needed to. When I got
there, she was concerned about money and who was going to care for
a relative that had been living with her. I had a strong sense
things would work out and told her that.

I talked to her about her faith in God. She said when she was young
that she got very sick and was going to die. An angel appeared to
her and from that time on she had faith--she didn't do things such
as drink, smoke, and some other "vices" she explained to me.

As we were having that talk about faith, she started crying with joy
about hearing that God loved her and cared about her. It was an
incredible time for both of us.

She died Christmas Eve. When she was found Christmas Day, she was
sitting in her chair, with Christmas cards and a pen in her hand,
and she had died smiling.

I've always felt it was a great blessing to have that special time
with grandma just before she died. So I really miss her, but I'm
also encouraged in my faith by that visit I had with her at the end
of her life.

I'm sure you had great talks with your aunt about things that
mattered to you.

John



--- In Grief_Group@yahoogroups.com, treeka2005@a... wrote:
> hello john thank you so much for writing me back. you lost your
grandma just
> before christmas ,iam very sorry to hear that because i know
holidays are hard
> enough when you lose someone. i am glad that you set up this
site. i do try
> to think my aunt did not suffer and from what i read from you it
sounds like
> your grandmother didn't either. my aunt had a heart attack due to
a blood clot
> so i know there was no suffering but yet some days it still
doesn't help how
> about you? do you do the what if's or if i just would of did this
type of
> thing. my aunt was like my sister because i am the only child and
she lived withus
> for along time she took care of me since i was a baby i grew up
with her.
> then she moved home to my gram's and then when i got married and
had kids she
> took care of mine. she was a part of my everyday life we were
like frick and
> frack. she had a very warm heart. she was so funny i loved when
she cracked
> jokes her and i would get on alaughing kick for like 20 minutes
straight. my 11
> year old misses her very much she kinda doated on him.please tell
me about your
>
grandmother.
thank
> you again
>

> theresa