My preacher keeps telling us (as a
congregation within his sermons somehow gets worked in) to take things to God
and I know I should. I also have a hard time letting go and at least
acknowledging that I need counseling. Time constraints with two young children
and my husband being out of work, but doing odd jobs and looking for work keeps
me from paying someone to watch the kids so I can get counseling. The folks
closest to us don’t think we have a need and his folks want to know too
much. Hiring a sitter is extra hard because our daughter is on a special diet
to control her autistic behavior. I feel comfortable going to our pastor, but
he has a great deal on his plate as well. His wife hasn’t been
completely well for some time now and their youngest child has developed cancer
and is fighting for life now. They have one son who has been questionable and
no one seems to know how he is doing. Their oldest son is well, but has family
issues at this time. I know my problem is very petty in comparison to theirs
and many many others. I just seem to be at a stumbling block and can’t
move forward to really know what is bothering me.
I probably need counseling, but feel i am too much for anyone. Not even sure how i expect anyone to respond. My losses are not recent, but hitting home this...
Regina, I'm so sorry for your losses. I can't even begin to imagine what it must be like to lose a child. My heart goes out to you. I wish that I had some...
OH, I didn't mean lost as in died, I am so sorry for that. I meant she was developing normally then around 3 went into her own world and stopped talking and...
Oh, I'm sorry I didn't understand. You didn't misrepresent yourself I'm sure it was reader error. My computer is acting up so I keep getting sent to another...
Hi Regina, Thanks for writing and sharing a part of your story. Time constraints this morning limit my response, but I wanted to say that you are not too much...
My preacher keeps telling us (as a congregation within his sermons somehow gets worked in) to take things to God and I know I should. I also have a hard time...
Hi Regina, You wrote: "I know my problem is very petty in comparison to theirs and many many others. I just seem to be at a stumbling block and can’t move...
John, What you said about us being the ones missed someday really hit home for me. I get so caught up in my own grief and hurt from losing Dad and Brad...
Hi Lisa, What you said about us being the ones missed someday really hit home for me. Good, You're a wonderful person and they have a tremendous blessing with...
Thank you so much. You are right. I need to get up and dike into taking care of business wholeheartedly. Working through grief has gotten harder. I usually...
I feel much better when I do something, no matter how small, for someone else, I need to keep with that as well. And please remember afterwards to take a few...
When my dad died, my son and I grieved together. His preschool teacher gave me a handout that said the average American believes grief is over in an average...
Hi Regina, 3 days for any public display? That's probably what we determine as acceptable grieving in our country. I could see 3 days with traditional Hispanic...
The article was referring to a survey done that said most folks think grief only lasts that long. I am not sure if it meant publicly or not. I have to admit,...