Thanks for all the replys so far. They help to let me know there
are others. The boy that was killed was her boyfriend of 2 years
and they were making plans for a future so that makes this that much
harder. I looked for a christian group as I believe that God can
help you through anything and I have chritian friends but sometimes
you need more. She has lived on her own and has been home here with
me and I know that next week she will be back to her own place and I
am having a hard time with that today esp for some reason. The fear
we all have of letting go is rearing its ugly head as I dont want
anything to happen to her as we already had such a close call. She
usually has a hard time in the morning and then we talk and get on
with the day. Thanks again to everyone that responded.--- In
Grief_Group@yahoogroups.com, J Hum <jhum07@...> wrote:
>
> Hi Linda,
> Thanks for writing; I'm really sorry about your daughter's
traumatic loss, the injuries she sustained in that horrible
accident, and your losses as well.
>
> Obviously, the auto accident sounded so bad, that I'm sure
you're thanking God this day that you still have your daughter.
These accidents happen every night on highways throughout our
country, but there's no way to prepare for when we get the call.
>
> You show such a wonderful love for your daughter by coming to a
group such as this and trying to find support for her. There has
already been some great wisdom shared concerning grief; it's going
to take time and patience to walk with your daughter through this
valley of darkness. From the difficulty of guilt ("why did I live
and they didn't?") to the loss of a future (I don't know how serious
your daughter was in her relationship with her boyfriend) to the
enormity of grief because of the death itself, she is going to need
time, space, and open acceptance as these deep inner wounds try to
heal.
>
> Our support and encouragement, here, is first in prayer. We pray
for each other at this place. Knowing how challenging life is
without situations like you all have been thrust into is hard
enough, but then this? It brings to mind John 11:35--the shortest
verse in the Bible. "Jesus wept."
>
> Secondly, our support is to be here and listen with the
compassionate heart God has given us. It's so important to be able
to have a place where we can share true feelings: hurt,
disappointment, anger, rage, despondency, depression, and just how
lost a situation like this can make a person feel, to also being a
place where we can start making the slow trek back to functional
life.
>
> Linda, this is your loss too. Your daughter was hurt, and you
had to have some kind of relationship with this boyfriend and friend
of your daughters.
>
> If you wouldn't mind, can you please tell us when this all
happened, maybe a bit about the two that died and how close your
daughter was to these two (and how well you knew them also)?
>
> I will say we are a faith-based grief group so nearly everyone
that shares here does so from that perspective. What that means is
that we talk about God's love, how prayer has helped us through, and
how praise and truly loving and forgiving one another is so
important in making it through situations like this--healthy.
>
> We're so glad you came here, and deeply sorry about this tragic
accident.
>
> Gracious God, we are so saddened to hear what has happened in
Linda's family, this horrible accident, the death of two precious
people, and the injury of her daughter. Lord God, I pray your love
and peace would bring comfort to that home where the wounds are so
deep at this time. May your healing presence be with each of them as
they try to make some sense of this horrible occurrence. Please be
with the families of the two that died and bring comfort to their
wounded hearts, and help Linda's daughter in her physical and
emotional recovery.
>
> Lord, situations like this don't catch you off guard, but they
sure do catch us that way. Make your presence evident during this
difficult time. Be with all the families, in your powerful name,
Jesus, we ask, Amen.
>
> Linda, feel free to write anytime.
>
> John
>
> Linda <mljmbaaa@...> wrote:
> My daughter (24yrs) was involved in an auto accident
that killed her
> boyfriend and another friend. I am seaching for things that might
> help her or things to say or give. This is something any parent
does
> not want to watch their children go through so I am just trying to
> someone thats been there or close and things that helped you. She
has
> been living on her own but has been back home recouperating but in
a
> few weeks will be back to her own place. Thanks for any responses.
>
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