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From: cindy thompson

To: Grief_Group@yahoogroups.com

Sent: Saturday, December 02, 2006 1:11 PM

Subject: RE: Re: [Grief_Group] Let's everyone Check In

Thank you Betty for your words of encourgement. I know it is perfectly ok not to go to cemetary. But somehow guilt still slides in. Have any of you woke up with so much weight on you shoulders you just don't know what to do or how to shake it off. Tears roll out of absolutely now where. Praying and reading Bible does not seem to help, neither does trying to stay busy. I have tried to journel, yet words just won't come. It is one of those bleak days and I have had my share. I know my loved one is now pain free, rocking in the arms of Jesus, and that knowledge is wonderful, but the missing and wanting just don't seem to go away. I know I am not the only one that has felt this way or feeling this way especially because of the time of year. Guess I just needed to cry on someone's shoulder today.

"bchile@midwaynet.net" <bchile@midwaynet.net> wrote:

Cindy,

Hang in there and don't push yourself to go to the cemetary is you don't feel
you can handle it. You are so right....our loved ones who were Christians
are not in the grave anyway...they are celebrating in a pain free and purely
joyful place...remember them that way. As to the grave..I will let you know
that I ordered a grave arrangement made for mom and dad's headstone last year
and then could never get the courage to take it out to the cemetary. I just
couldn't see both of their graves there at Christmas. And you know
what...that was OK!! It was totally OK!! Celebrate the holidays with your
loved one in your heart...no one can steal the memories and time you had with
him and no one can wipe out that picture in your mind and heart of him
rejoicing in heaven now.

Betty

"Hugging is a means of getting two people so close together that they
can't see anything wrong with each other" ....Author Unknown



------- Original Message -------
From : cindy thompson[mailto:beauncj@yahoo.com]
Sent : 11/29/2006 4:44:09 PM
To : Grief_Group@yahoogroups.com
Cc :
Subject : RE: Re: [Grief_Group] Let's everyone Check In

First of all John I pray for strength for you and yours while your father is
in hospital. I hope there is no pain involved and my heart is with you in
prayer. God is our strengh and our salvation and we need to remember to lean
on him at all time. Praises at times come hard, but then I remember the simple
praises such as a warm home especially because it was 20 below 0 this morning,
a truck to drive, food in the pantry, and most of all faithful friends.

It is still the hardest thing in the world to go to the grave as it is so
very final and cold. I know my love one is not there, but my memories of his
body in the casket is so raw in my memory. I must remember that my Lord is my
rock and my fortress, he is my strengh and without him I would certainly
crumble. The holiday season is hard on each and every one of us no matter how
long it has been since we have lost a loved one. I do wish though that each of
you have a wonderful Holiday and let us not forget why we celebrate Christmas.
Cindy

J Hum wrote:
Hi Cindy,
Great to hear from you, Happy Thanksgiving, and, again, I'm sorry for your
loss. I'm sure your in-laws would say the same about you, that they've been
blessed with a wonderful daughter-in-law.

Your Scripture time this morning was powerful. Paul's discussion in I Cor.
15 about the resurrection is so strong and so important for each of us. I'm
convinced the more we've lost in the life that the more passages like that
mean to us. People haven't lived as long in previous generations and they'd
have more family members to compensate. They were more used to loss and the
sting of that loss. The reality of that death being defeated was so personal
and important--just like we've talked about here.

Snow pounded our neighborhood last night and the kids stayed home from
school today. I was home sick (stress from too much going on, probably), and
my dad's condition just isn't getting better. At his age, declining health may
not be a bad thing (we're not going to live forever in this body), so my
prayer is that if his body isn't going to be right, hopefully his heart will
be.

Thanks for your prayers and concern.

God's peace be with all through this holiday season.

John

cindy thompson wrote:
You are so right that all of us needs to check in. Thanksgiving was a
hard one this year as it has been barely 4 months since I lost my husband Ted.
Yes, in-law family members present, but a very vacant place without Ted there.
His father and I made it with good food, good company but also a tear in our
eye and a hollowness in our hearts. Christmas will be the same. I am what you
would call an implant into this part of the country, as I did not come from
here so my family are near and far from me. Praise God I have the wonderful in-
laws I have. I have been so blessed there as one does not get to choose the
family we are marrying into. I know even if I had a choice there could not
have been any family better nor more loving than the one I married into. I am
carrying on the tradition of home decorating etc. Partly because it is a
tradition but also because it keeps me busy. This morning I found one more
thing that I so appreciated of my husband. That was shoveling snow
from the drive way and walk. Only a few inches this morning in tempatures of
13, and my muscles still ache. I do find a bit of humor in it, as the few
inches are getting me in shape for when it decides to snow 6 or more inches at
a time and me with no snow blower. In reading this morning with Paul speaking
O death where is they sting? O grave where is the victory? And another verse
But thanks be to God which giveth us the victory throught our Lord Jesus
Christ. Then in Matthew, Blessed are they that mourn for they shall be
comforted. Yes my Lord and Saviour has given me comfort and peace, the joy has
yet to come. But, I will continue to trust in him. My tears still come out of
no where and I pray that is also a healing process. To each and every one I
pray you are holding steadfast. For your father JHum I will pray for the both
of you. Thanks for listening all, Cindy

"bchile@midwaynet.net" wrote: So sorry to hear your
dad is in the hospital. Will pray that God will touch his body and soul to
bring a speedy recovery and give you strength, wisdom and rest during this
time as well.

Betty


"Hugging is a means of getting two people so close together that they
can't see anything wrong with each other" ....Author Unknown



------- Original Message -------
From : J Hum[ mailto:jhum07@yahoo.com]
Sent : 11/28/2006 3:01:44 PM
To : Grief_Group@yahoogroups.com
Cc :
Subject : RE: Re: [Grief_Group] Let's everyone Check In

Thanks Betty,
My electricity went out and I was without a computer for a short bit.

My father has been hospitali zed, again, so as many of you know all too
well,
it's a challenging time.

Holidays are hard when you're grieving the loss of a loved one. Many won't
call someone in grief because they don't know what to say to "them."

We can talk about it here.

For those that are hurting and missing someone dear, may God's Spirit be
with you in a new and special way this holiday season.

Maybe some here have felt better, stronger, or this holiday&;nbs p; ;has had
a sense
of normalcy--please share that testimony as it can be a real encouragement for
those that are struggling.

John

Betty wrote:
This Group is too quiet given that it's the beginning of the holiday
season and I know how hard....harder than anything else in life
almost...it can be for those grieving. It is especially hard for
those in the first couple years after their loved one has died. How
about everyone checking in just so that&n bsp;we know how you're doing and
what to pray for for each of you. You're all on my heart and am hear
for anyone if they need someone to listen to them.\

Betty






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