Betty,

Sweetie.  It is perfectly normal.  After mom died, I thought, ok, now I won't be in the hospital for any reason for a while and will have time to be able to adjust.  Little did I know that I would not only be there but in the same place that mom had passed.  Less than four months, I stood just four doors down the hall from the room that mom passed away in watching my dearest mother-in-law in the battle for her life.  It all came back with a rush.  The fear, helplessness and grief.  Now, even a year later, there are times I find myself slammed back in time.  Just a month or so ago we happened to have to take a detour and go passed the nursing home that mom was in and I didn't even realize it until I glanced to my right and suddenly burst into tears.  Those times are difficult because they hit hard and without warning.  I don't think time lessens the impact that certain circumstances has on us.  We just learn to deal with them and recognize them for what they are. 

 

Just remember, I'm ever only an email away.  We have become good friend across the miles and on this sometimes lonely journey you have more times than I can count become my support and companion.

Hugs,

Evelyn  

 

 

 

Well...guess I'm posting this because I know that maybe only the
people in this group may understand and help me understand some of
the feelings I had this past weekend after helping some friends thru
a crisis.
Is this normal? Am I going to react like this anytime I get put
into an emergent even like this? Thankfully I'm the type who
always holds it together very calmly and able to make decisions in a
crisis and gets the shakes and emotions after it's all over. I
just pray no one realized how it was hitting me as I don't want them
to feel badly in anyway. But it really took me off guard how it
effected me so much. Anyone have any thoughts on this? Does it
just come with the long term conditioning of repeated crisis events
of caregiving?

Betty