Thanks for your e-mail. It is so special to me to hear of others
speaking so dearly of Aaron. We did have a love that, I'm sure, can
never be repeated on this earth. I honestly didn't know it was so
obvious to others.

I am so glad we have God to sustain us here until we are all together.
I can't image going through this with no hope help herer and of life
eternal with God and our loved ones. He really has the perfect plan for
our souls. YIPEE!

Kay




--- In Grief_Group@yahoogroups.com, J Hum <jhum07@...> wrote:
>
> Hi Kay,
> Welcome. I'm really sorry for you great loss. Aaron was such a
wonderful man that was easy to get to know and once a person knew him,
grew in appreciation of his character and that he was a character
>
> For those in the group, we had a celebration concert for Aaron last
year because he was a musician, and, well, we musicians wanted to throw
a party/concert for Kay and Aaron. In the middle there was a slide show
of Aaron and Kay's life. There were many pictures where you could
literally feel the love this couple had for each other. It was a
testimony of God's blessing in thier lives, but it also points to the
depth of hurt Kay's going through as she's truly lost someone totally
wonderful.
>
> I'm currently reading a book by Henry Nouwen that is really
compelling. He talks about the intense loneliness all of us feel. When
we lose someone close to us, especially someone really special or
someone we rely on, it accentuates the loneliness in a big way.
>
> The hard movement we have to make is seeing how God can be with us in
that lonely place. Now I'm not talking about replacing that person. We
can't replace anyone! It's letting God into that lonely place we have
that was there even when our loved one was still alive. Yes, it was
there, but not as evident because we feel more fulfilled, distracted,
busy, etc.
>
> David experienced the loneliness, frustration and fears we all feel.
He dutifully recorded them to help us on our journey:
>
> Psalm 5:1-12 Give ear to my words, O LORD, Consider my meditation. 2
Give heed to the voice of my cry, My King and my God, For to You I will
pray. 3 My voice You shall hear in the morning, O LORD; In the morning I
will direct it to You, And I will look up. 4 For You are not a God who
takes pleasure in wickedness, Nor shall evil dwell with You. 5 The
boastful shall not stand in Your sight; You hate all workers of
iniquity. 6 You shall destroy those who speak falsehood; The LORD abhors
the bloodthirsty and deceitful man. 7 But as for me, I will come into
Your house in the multitude of Your mercy; In fear of You I will worship
toward Your holy temple. 8 Lead me, O LORD, in Your righteousness
because of my enemies; Make Your way straight before my face. 9 For
there is no faithfulness in their mouth; Their inward part is
destruction; Their throat is an open tomb; They flatter with their
tongue. 10 Pronounce them guilty, O God! Let them fall by their own
counsels; Cast them out
> in the multitude of their transgressions, For they have rebelled
against You. 11 But let all those rejoice who put their trust in You;
Let them ever shout for joy, because You defend them; Let those also who
love Your name Be joyful in You. 12 For You, O LORD, will bless the
righteous; With favor You will surround him as with a shield.
>
>
> This is different only because David was being chased by evil men
trying to kill him. But that act (like grief can be for us) makes the
loneliness and fear we face daily stand out. Even through the difficulty
David found a way to turn his grief to praise. It's not easy (especially
when people are chasing you with spears!), but God will protect his
children and grant them favor as with a shield.
>
> Again, welcome Kay. God's peace be with you and all who are here on
this site.
>
> John
>
>
> Aaron and Kay aaronnkay@... wrote:
> Hello Grief Group members,
>
> My name is Kay McNulty and my husband of 32 years, Aaron was diagnosed
with ALS, Lou Gehrig's Disease at age 48. He lost his battle with the
disease and 8 months ago on January 2nd he died. I would like to join
your group since the numbness has worn off now, I am feeling much weaker
now than when he first died. I have been corresponding with J Hum and he
suggested that I join this group. Kay McNulty
>
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