PROFILE OF THE ESCAPE GAMBLER
Most Escape gamblers have been nurturing, caring responsible people for most of their lives. For the most part, they are not egotistical, have no indications of narcissism and are not outgoing. They appear to be "normal" and have an almost exact opposite character profile than that of the Action gambler.
During their lives, various psychological traumas have occurred. These individuals frequently suppress these negative feelings and do not deal with them. As time goes by and the traumas increase, a single traumatic event may take place which causes situational or clinical depression. Friends and relatives of the person become aware of the depression of the person.
After the predisposing factors come to the surface, depression is prevalent the individual will often do what most do, attempt to self-medicate or escape from the trauma (make themselves feel better).
These individuals are prone to use drugs, food, sex, alcohol or gambling as a way to self-medicate. Often, a friend or family member will suggest to the individual that they do something "fun" to help forget about the problems.
When they choose gambling, the individual will realize that the act of gambling does help them forget about and escape from their problems. The individual may become addicted to gambling the first time they gamble and the progression of the disorder begins.
Escape gamblers literally get "relief" or "escape" from psychological and emotional pain. Many are actually afraid to stop gambling because they have no confidence they will be able to endure the pain they fear will come when they stop medicating themselves with their drug of choice, gambling. A drug addict is rarely expected to quit "cold turkey". The gambling addict must be offered the hope of an alternative way of dealing with the underlying factors that led them to want the escape-at-all-cost anesthetizing quality of slot machines, video poker, keno, bingo or whatever type of gambling they became addicted to.
A 12-step program, in time, can lead to a better way of coping with the past as well as the present. Most compulsive gamblers would benefit from therapy by a certified compulsive gambling counselor, outpatient treatment, or even intensive inpatient treatment to help them deal with the sometimes excruciating pain of facing reality and addressing the issues which underlie the addiction.
THE PROGRESSIVE NATURE OF THE ILLNESS
Most escape gamblers begin by visiting a casino with friends or family once or twice as a social event, an opportunity to take a break from their problems and "have some fun". In other words, they gamble for recreation. However a few quickly step over the line into compulsive escape gambling. They rapidly fly through what is often referred to as the "winning" phase . However, for escape gamblers who gamble at games of luck, no winning phase exists. It is more like an Introductory Phase. On occasion there are winning episodes, but not phases. They may or may not have a big monetary win. For them, "winning" may have to do more with the empowerment that comes from entering a world which is free from outside controlling factors which provides a narcotic-like relief or escape from their worries. They are into Phase Two, the chasing stage, almost immediately and reach the third phase of desperation and fourth phase, hopelessness, within two to three years. They often seek professional counseling prior to attending their first self help meeting.
The following deductions were made by the Arizona Council since 1997 as data has been collected from thousands of compulsive gamblers calling the 1-800-Helpline and information provided by gamblers attending the self-help programs across Arizona.
Escape compulsive gamblers share some of the same
characteristics as the Action gambler:
- Low self esteem
- Become liars
- Manipulative
- Evolve through four stages: Winning-Losing-Desperation-Hopeless (although their is no "Winning" stage for Escape gamblers, they do have winning episodes, but not phases. This is because Escape gamblers play "luck" and Action Gamblers playu "skill" games.
However, there are important differences.
Understanding them can accelerate one’s recovery.
- Gambling becomes a problem later in life, frequently after 30 or as late as 80.
- Gamble at luck games; slot machines, video poker, bingo, lottery, other machines, Internet.
- Gamble for different reasons than action gamblers.
- Are numb, almost in a hypnotic like state while gambling. Gamble to escape problems.
- Are free from physical and/or emotional pain while gambling
- Nurturing, responsible individual majority of adult life.
- Often victim of abuse
- Does not like confrontation; in desperate need of empowerment
- Often becomes compulsive almost immediately once predisposing factors emerge
- Sometimes has winning episodes after becoming compulsive, but at this point winning is simply a means of gambling longer.
- Usually seeks help for their gambling within 6 months to 3 years after becoming compulsive.
- High probability of long term abstinence from gambling if able to become empowered by replacing gambling with other activity and regaining or developing coping skills
- Probably codependent. Recovery greatly accelerated by recognizing and dealing with codependent issues.
- Have a much more difficult time in early recovery. They don’t forgive themselves easily and have a deep sense of shame and guilt.
- Spouses of women Escape gamblers are not likely to attend recovery programs such as GamAnon.
- Have a better opportunity at long term recovery; become more involved in their own recovery.
- Are more likely to seek professional help
- Need empowering rather than humbling