Sounds really chaotic. Please just separate yourself from that mess so you can
just calm
down. Its ok to be bored and be by yourself, you might have to do that more of
the time.
Yes he's terrible, but you can get away and get your own self together.

Do you drink alot too? You didn't mention wether you participate in the
different kinds of
abuse (alcohol, drug, sex) that you mentioned. Believe me you have to separate
yourself
from that craziness so you can find a way to get calm and feel the way you feel.

There is more adventure in feeling yourself and dealing with whatever that
brings up than
there is running around with maniacal abusers.

Hugh

--- In End_Verbal_Abuse@yahoogroups.com, "aprilweakley" <aprilweakley@...>
wrote:
>
> i've been with my VA for about two years now and it's never been
> stable. He uses herion on occasion. when we first met he lied about
> how long he'd been clean and i tried to get rid of him after i found
> out but it was all smiles and flowers and i though he'd really
> changed! Now he threatens to use whenever we have an argument. Once
> I took too long (10Min) to respond to a text message so he and his
> roommate got drunk and he would up dumping me and doing herion all
> day the next day. he said it was my fault. he dumped me the day
> before my birthday, and again the day after. I am not permitted to
> have any male friends and he frequently checks my cell phone claiming
> that i "erase all the good stuff." The majority of his friends are
> female. He's had one ex girlfriend sleep over his house and lives a
> block away from a girl who gives him frequent invitations home.
> There is so much more that i can't bring myself to type. He says I
> flirt with eveyrone and have "f*cked" half the city. the other night
> he yelled at me so much i just asked him to tell me what to do so
> he'd stop yelling. He told me to sit on the couch and shut the hell
> up, and that i was obviously incapable of doing anything he asked me
> to do, and proceded to say "you ruined your own night b*tch" than he
> ran into his bedroom and passed out from drinking all day. i tried
> to wake him up (which was stupid of me i know last time i did that he
> shoved me off, my head hit the floor and capping broke off my teeth),
> and he twisted my wrist pretty badly and told me that he planned on
> cheating on me, that his ex's were smarter than me etc.
>
> ok. sorry to vent. it's just getting really hard, i feel so
> isolated....he says he is not controling but i really feel he is.
> his voice is the onlh one i hear. I'm currently in the process of
> getting a new apt, my roommate and i haven't been getting along, so
> i've mostly been staying there and he has my cat. I just feel so
> alone and isolated. I asked if he was going to continue to talk to
> the females that hit on him constantly and he said depending on my
> behavior he was going to increase the contact with those that he used
> to consider his friends, but that if i wanted to talk to my one male
> friend "go ahead and see what happens." I'm always so tired and
> sad. I don't understand why the rurles do not apply to him and why i
> feel so trapped. Can someone please give me some advice? I really
> need some support.
> Sorry for ranting and thanks for reading.
>