Hello
I have not written in a while. It has been tough to come to grips with my
feelings. I left my abuser last April. Of course I had gone back and forth still
trying to "work things out". In the mean time while I was doing that I lost
friends and family.
I have not been with my abuser now for almost 2 months and I feel like ME
again. I have so much to share. There is a better, safer, saner life out there
for us.
I thought it would never happen and slowly but surely it is happening. Things
just eventually fall into place
I give so much credit to those that leave and stay away. For those that
haven't left or are in the process, please stay strong.
When you do finally see that the situation you were in is so ugly your eyes
will be opened. You can do it. I am here for support if anyone needs it. That is
how I got through. This group has been a blessing
Love to all
and big hugs
you are awesome!
Juls

Angelina Brelih <angelina@...> wrote:
Oh My, Terri thankyou so much.
I don’t know what to say
But Thankyou…………..God Bless You, Angelina

With The Kindest Regards from the Desk of Angelina Brelih

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Subject: Ending Verbally Abusive Relationships: Verbal Abuse: Fight
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Former Target of Verbal Abuse

You are hereby certified as having completed

The Verbal Abuse: Fight Back! Program

by successfully:


1) Learning about verbal abuse.

2) Confronting the verbal abuse.

3) Fixing your own issues.

4) Putting an end to the verbal abuse
or getting out of the verbally abusive relationship.

5) Never tolerating verbal abuse again.

Congratulations!


The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt,
Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate by Harriet Lerner

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You Can't Say That to Me: Stopping the Pain of Verbal Abuse - An 8-Step
Program by Suzette Haden Elgin

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Synopsis: You can't say that to me! "Can't you do anything right?" "I
can't believe you would feed that junk to your child!" "What is this?
And don't tell me it's a casserole, I already know that." "If you really
cared about me, you wouldn't behave this way." Sound familiar? Each of
us occasionally feels the sting of very unpleasant language from those
who are closest to us; spouses, employers, friends, relatives. But
frequent and repeated use of unanswerable questions, scalding
accusations, sarcasm, insinuations, and even icy silence is more than
simply unpleasant; it is abusive, destructive, and frequently leads to
escalating arguments and physical violence.

Suzette Haden Elgin, creator of the "Gentle Art of Verbal
Self-Defense,-" has developed a unique and revolutionary way to break
the cycle of verbal violence and eliminate it from your life without
ruining your marriage, risking your job, or alienating friends or loved
ones. Dr. Elgin shows you how to neutralize verbal attacks and
discourage future abuse with:

An 8-step program that helps you recognize the patterns of verbal abuse.

Specific language techniques that enable you to avoid escalating
arguments and break the cycle of abuse using skills you already possess.

Questionnaires and diaries that help you analyze abusive situations,
evaluate your responses to them, and track your progress.

In this book Dr. Elgin proves that verbal abuse is not caused by human
nature, but by language. She helps you discover that you are an expert
in your own language, already highly qualified to solve this problem for
yourself, quickly and forever.



Tongue Fu!: How to Deflect, Disarm, and Defuse Any Verbal Conflict by
Sam Horn

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Synopsis: The purpose of Kung Fu, the Chinese art of self-defense, is to
fend off physical attacks. According to professional speaker and
consultant Horn, the purpose of Tongue Fu, a spoken form of
self-defense, is to guard
against psychological attacks. Dealing with difficult people is a part
of everyday life. However, by focusing on real-life responses to verbal
challenges instead of theories and platitudes, the author has delivered
a convenient handbook for the mental martial art of verbal
self-protection.

Divided into four sections, the book offers techniques and skills for
responding thoughtfully in conflicts, expressing honest feelings and
goals, seeking cooperation in difficult situations, and living a life of
value during trying times. Each of the 30 chapters offers examples that
demonstrate the expected goals and acquired skills in action. Despite
its suggestively prurient title, Horn's book is a lively, positive guide
that can be returned to time and again. A popular title for all public
library collections. David R. Johnson, Fayetteville P.L., Ark.



Abused Men by Philip W. Cook

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Synopsis: When most people think of domestic violence, images of
battered women or abused children come to mind. But there is another
side to this issue that is not as familiar--abused men. This unique book
is the first to
comprehensively examine this important but neglected social issue.
Already praised by a diverse spectrum of readers--from "Dear Abby's"
Abigail Van Buren, to the nation's leading domestic violence researcher,
to those in law enforcement and counseling---this work is sure to spark
controversy and discussion. It offers gripping, emotional stories,
self-help for victims, and provocative insight into public issues, and
provides a basic reference source for professionals. Abused Men presents
practical solutions for reducing domestic violence,
whether its victims are male or female.



The Secret of Overcoming Verbal Abuse: Getting Off the Emotional Roller
Coaster and Regaining Control of Your Life by Albert Ellis, Marcia Grad
Powers

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Reader Review: Although some people thought this book takes away from
the culpability of the abuser, it was the first book on verbal abuse
that helped me understand that I had to make the ultimate choice. You
can't keep giving the abuser your empathy, feel sorry for YES, empathy
NO, there comes a time when you need to take care of # 1 or end up in
the loony bin!! That is something hard to do when you have been beaten
down. I finally understood that no amount of explaining, or hoping or
changing on my part would EVER make a difference. You can love this
person do death, it will not make a difference. That nothing AT ALL that
you are doing is causing this person to treat you this way.

That it basically comes down to realizing the abuser is responsible for
their behavior, they are making the choice to behave that way and WILL
NOT change. Whether consciously or subconsciously they are being
disrespectful and inconsiderate and when you express your feelings they
are always trying to convince you that they are not doing anything wrong
and will not take any responsibility. What are your options? If you are
ready and can understand that clearly, you will see that the ONLY option
you have is to TOTALLY disengage.



The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How
to Stop Abusing by Beverly Engel

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Synopsis: According to therapist Engel (Partners in Recovery), "even the
most loving person" is capable of emotional abuse-that is, "any
nonphysical behavior designed to control, intimidate, subjugate, demean,
punish, or isolate." In a reasoned, sensible tone, she encourages
readers to become responsible for their behavior and for changing it.
Identified are ten "patterns of abuse" (verbal assault, character
assassination, etc.), different kinds of abusive relationships, action
steps for cessation, and suggestions for recovery. Using dense writing
and cogent examples, Engel clearly shows how this type of abuse, either
intentional or unconscious, leads to low self-esteem and misery for one
or both partners. A difficult and draining yet important read for those
who suspect that their relationship has entered abusive territory, this
book is highly recommended. For books on remedying less severe marital
stresses, try Howard Markman and others' hokey but well-intentioned
Fighting for Your Marriage.



The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and
Reclaiming Yourself by Beverly Engel

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It's My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or
Domestic Violence by Meg Kennedy Dugan, Roger Hock, Roger R. Hock

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Reader Review: This book has been very helpful to me in recovering from
an abusive marriage. In fact, if you only have the money for one
"recovery from abuse" book, this one is the one to get. It covers every
type of abuse, even spiritual abuse, which was very relevant to my
experiences in a bizarre cultic marriage in which I was beaten over the
head with the Bible and told to "submit" all the time. The tone that the
book is written in is wonderful. It is neither "oh, you poor pathetic
baby" or "get over it, toots" but strikes exactly the right
tone--empowering and empathetic but not patronizing or overbearing.

The book helps you not only analyze what happened to you and why, but
gets you into the healing process. This book helped me quit beating
myself up for ending up with and staying with an abuser (and having SIX
children with him into the bargain), for still having feelings for my
abusive husband, and for being tempted to go back. Some of the exercises
at the end of the chapters were kind of silly, and I skipped them, but
some were excellent. The exercise that helped me the most was the one
that helped me to look back and remember why I fell in love with that
chump to begin with. It WASN'T because I am brainless.

The absolute best thing about this book, in my opinion, is the final
chapter. Prior to reading it, I had no idea how in the world I managed
to marry an abusive control freak and was scared to death of getting
hooked by another one. This chapter really helped me feel capable of
choosing another partner who is not abusive. The author tells you
exactly what danger signs to look for. I missed every one of them the
first time, but I won't miss them again!



Getting Over Getting Mad: Positive Ways to Manage Anger in Your Most
Important Relationships by Judy Ford

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Synopsis: With society increasingly held hostage to stress, conflict,
and violence, the issue of anger is getting lots of attention. Intimate
partners, families, schools, workplaces, and the media are all focusing
on how to better manage this difficult emotion. In contrast to books
that analyze the causes of anger or discuss the issue on a societal
level, Getting Over Getting Mad provides readers with inspiration and
suggestions for making positive changes in themselves and their
relationships. The book's primary emphasis is on prevention, encouraging
people to deal with upset, frustration, tantrums, and annoyances quickly
- before these disturbances sour feelings and burn bridges. The book
also gives concrete suggestions for handling anger in ongoing difficult
situations, and chronicles the author's own experiences as a therapist
and workshop leader.



How to Be an Assertive (Not Aggressive) Woman in Life, in Love, and on
the Job by Jean Baer

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Reader Review: This is an excellent book for any woman who wants to
learn how to finally stand up for herself in various situations and to
various people, such as asserting yourself socially, speaking up to a
rude salesperson, responding to putdowns, handling and expressing anger,
asking for a better table at a restaurant, asking your boss for a raise
etc. While reading it I found that many of the scenarios that she had
written about applied to me. There are excellent tips to apply to your
everyday life, and I have incorporated most of them into mine. You can
finally learn how to break out of becoming a "shrinking violet" or
whatever your case may be and become an assertive and not aggressive
woman.



When I Say No, I Feel Guilty by Manuel J. Smith

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Synopsis: The bestseller that helps you say: "I just said 'no' and I
don't feel guilty!" Are you letting your kids get away with murder? Are
you allowing your mother-in-law to impose her will on you? Are you
embarrassed by
praise or crushed by criticism? Are you having trouble coping with
people? Learn the answers in When I Say No, I Feel Guilty, the
bestseller with revolutionary new techniques for getting your own way.



The Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for
Yourself at Work and in Relationships by Randy J. Paterson Ph.D.

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Synopsis: This self-directed program teaches readers to speak up and say
what they mean at work and at home. Written supportively, it uses proven
cognitive behavioral techniques to help individuals build
self-confidence, set boundaries, and determine appropriate responses.



Too Nice for Your Own Good: How to Stop Making 9 Self-Sabotaging
Mistakes by Duke Robinson

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Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers

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Reader Review: This is a truly wonderful book. I don't know how she did
it. Conversationally speaking, did you know that the fears we carry in
our pockets or purses that are not dealt with cause excruciating
anxiety. What do we do? Add Vitamin B to our diet? Put crystals in our
pockets? Become a yogi like me and levitate until your head hits the
ceiling? OR...we could do what we fear. How about that for an idea. I
think they spell that C-O-U-R-A-G--E. We don't need courage anymore. We
have tranquilizers and self-help books.

I want to give you a beautiful quote from this lady's infinite wisdom
(she's incredible!)-. PUSHING THROUGH FEAR IS LESS FRIGHTENING THAN
LIVING WITH THE UNDERLYING FEAR THAT COMES FROM A FEELING OF
HELPLESSNESS. This book is just beautiful. The book advocates COURAGE.
But she shows you how to be courageous. Positive thinking, the
understanding between pain and power, the real truth about RISKS and
GROWTH.

You have to buy this book. It is a true gemstone. This book is all you
need for your fears. Go ahead. And stop looking at whether you had a
traumatic childhood or not as Father Bradshaw advises. You destroy the
past by what you do in the future. And this book will help you do it.
Good luck. And I'm not afraid of you anymore! HA!


When Misery Is Company: Ending Self-Sabotage and Misery Addiction by
Anne Katherine

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Synopsis: This book offers solutions to anyone who has felt victimized,
ostracized, or left behind by life. Why does happiness always seem to
elude certain people? And why, when these same people seem to be on the
cusp of
achieving happiness, do they sabotage themselves? This is the first book
about addiction to misery, a common but subtle problem that keeps many
people from responding to counseling or therapy, healing from old hurts,
and experiencing fulfillment and joy. For people who are addicted to
misery, happiness itself is frightening and threatening. As a result,
every joy must be equalized by a setback. Too much success must be
balanced by failure.

People who are addicted to misery try to protect themselves against
feeling bad by not feeling too good. For them, happiness itself triggers
a pattern of decisions and behaviors that leads to emotional pain --
pain that is comforting in its familiarity. Because of the subtlety and
contradictions of an addiction to misery, many talented therapists and
counselors may not recognize it and those who have it often unable to
see through it. When Misery is Company not only explains the problem, it
offers a practical, step-by-step program for overcoming it, and living a
life of joy and fulfillment.



Boundaries by Anne Katherine


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Synopsis: Are Your Boundaries Being Violated?

Boundaries separate us from others physically and emotionally. In fact,
they are essential for our mental and physical health as well as for
developing healthy relationships. Yet every day, people's boundaries are
violated by friends, family, or coworkers. Despite the importance of
personal boundaries many [people are unaware of how or when these very
important lines are crossed.

Which of the following are boundary violations?

Esther tells Betty a secret Mary told her.
Your therapist invites you to go for coffee.
Your boss wants to know the details of your personal life.
Your boss asks you if you'd like a hug.
Mom tells little Debbie about her troubles with Dad.
Your new neighbor pats you on the bottom as he turns away.
Your mother makes a comment about your being overweight.

All but one of the above incidents violate boundaries (your boss asks
you if you'd like a hug). In Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin, Anne
Katherine explains what healthy boundaries are, how to recognize if your
personal boundaries are being violated, and what you can do to protect
yourself. For anyone who has walked away from a conversation, a meeting,
or a visit with others feeling violated and not understanding why, this
is a book that can help.



Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You
Love by Pia Mellody

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Synopsis: Mellody has written a lucid and informative book on a subject
little understood: love addiction. Speaking both from personal
experience and a clinical standpoint, she very carefully defines her
terms, including "love addict," "avoidance addict," and, of course,
codependence. The last term she carefully distinguishes from love
addiction. She also includes information on the recovery process, the
marks of a healthy relationship, and the process of entering into a
healthy relationship. The book concludes with a set of journal
exercises designed to help someone in recovery. Worthwhile reading that
is recommended for libraries serving both the professional and general
reader.

What is love addiction?

Love addiction is any unhealthy attachment to people, euphoria, romance,
or sex in an attempt to get needs met. Psychologically, love addiction
is a reliance on someone external to the self in an attempt to heal past
trauma, get unmet needs fulfilled, avoid fear or emotional pain, solve
problems, fill our loneliness, and maintain balance. The paradox is that
love addiction is an attempt to gain control of our lives, and in so
doing, we go out of control by giving personal power to someone outside
ourselves. Addictive love is an attempt to satisfy our developmental
hunger for security, sensation, power, belonging, and meaning. Love
addiction is very often associated with feelings of "never having
enough" or "not being enough." None of us got everything we needed in
just the way we needed it in our developmental history. We literally
walk around with holes in our psyche and look for others to fill those
holes.



Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages
Our Lives by Pia Mellody

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Synopsis: A brilliant new guide to understanding the origins of
codependence and the path to recovery by a nationally recognized
authority on dependency and addiction. In this fresh new look at
codependence, Pia Mellody traces the origins of this illness back to
childhood, describing a whole range of emotional, spiritual,
intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Because of these earlier
experiences, codependent adults often lack the skills necessary to lead
mature lives and have satisfying relationships.

Recovery from codependence comes from clearing up the toxic feelings
left over from childhood and learning to re parent oneself by
intervening on the adult symptoms of codependence. Central to Mellody's
concept is the idea of the "precious child" that needs healing within
each adult. She creates a framework for identifying codependent behavior
and describes an effective approach to recovery that includes both
therapy and self-help processes. Designed to be used with her new
workbook for codependents, Breaking Free, this is a powerful tool for
understanding the nature of codependence.



The Language of Letting Go (Hazelden Meditation Series) by Melody
Beattie

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Synopsis: The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie is an excellent
tool for anyone who wants to work through the painful process of ending
an unhealthy relationship and to become more independent, empowered, and
healthier
themselves. Melody Beattie brings you 50 cards to help remind you that
each day you can ask for and accept the healing energy of God and the
Universe. Remember that you are all part of, and one with, the
continuous cycle of healing, and she urges you to live according to the
concepts of detachment and present-moment living. Reflecting on the core
issues of codependency, Melody Beattie encourages readers to trust
themselves on their journey to self-care. Each meditation is filled with
the personal warmth and insight Beattie brings to all of her books.



(Awesome book!) Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls (a cosmic
perspective of codependence and the human condition) by Robert Burney

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Reader Review: A startling and persuasive new take on the new age by a
Twelve Step enthusiast. With a compelling writing style that doesn't
just dance around the subject, he works with wounded souls in his
private practice, repairing dysfunctional attitudes about human
perfection. And his message is clear. We are not just human creatures
stumbling around finding ways to earn and justify a spiritual nature.
Just the opposite. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.
And Burney drills home his zealous message. "We are not being punished."

He examines organized religions, scientific principles, the scourge of
aids, other human conditions. And concludes that it's time we healed,
purged punishment, found our spiritual purpose, and enjoyed life. He
also confronts some of the new age channelers and psychics who shake
fingers at those who fall to common human frailty. Readers will find a
penetrating synthesis of Twelve Step Recovery, contemporary and ancient
principles in his Cosmic Perspective. Burney's comments are innovative
and inspiring, and may just be the answer for
so many seeking spiritual guidance. They ring of honesty, and they will
cause many to ponder. This is a life-changing, life-affirming book.

*Visit Burney's website for lots of goodies from this amazing book!

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When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most
Complicated Relationship of Your Life by Victoria Secunda

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Reader Review: Learn how your relationship with your mother colors your
other relationships and influences your choice of a mate, how to
recognize the difference between a healthy or destructive
mother-daughter relationship, how mothers manipulate us and how we
react, why you tend to become your mother's opposite or her twin, how to
find your truest self, and how to stop the cycle.

The book discusses the Bad Mommy Taboo, in which many in society refuse
to accept that a mother can be destructive to her children, but prefer
to see all moms as warm, loving, "America and apple pie" types. Great
pressure is put on adult children not to mention or discuss anything bad
their mothers might do, and to accept abuse because "she's your mother."
A daughter who rebels or stands up and tells the truth is often
criticized by acquaintances, and even outcast from the family. "And so
the Bad Mommy on a cultural level gets protected. Or she protects
herself. Or she is protected by her husband."

I found myself nodding in agreement as I related my own life testimony,
as well as other testimonies I have heard in the course of my ministry,
to many of the teachings in this book, especially the Bad Mommy Taboo.
It is amazing just how universal and pervasive this is. People with
normal mothers find it difficult to understand how it can be possible to
have a destructive mother. But the strange thing is that even those with
very abusive, controlling, or downright evil mothers can still be in
deep denial concerning their mothers' true natures. Many continue to
take the blame for an unsuccessful relationship and to expose themselves
to abuse, thinking there must be something wrong with them because Mom
couldn't possibly be the problem. After all, moms are loving and caring
of their children, right?

Well, unfortunately for some adult children, that's not right, and
understanding this and realizing what is going on is the first step
toward healing. This book is very helpful in that regard, and will teach
us to recognize and deal with such a mother, even if she is our own. It
is also encouraging in helping us tell the truth and protect ourselves
over the objections of outsiders -- which includes other family members.



Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life
by Susan Forward

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Synopsis: All parents fall short from time to time. But Susan Forward
pulls no punches when it comes to those whose deficiencies cripple their
children emotionally. Her brisk, unreserved guide to overcoming the
stultifying agony of parental manipulation---from power trips to guilt
trips and all other killers of self worth--will help deal with the pain
of childhood and move beyond the frustrating relationship patterns
learned at home.

Are you the child of toxic parents?

When you were a child...

Did your parents tell you that you were bad or worthless?
Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you?
Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems?
Were you often frightened of your parents?
Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret?

Now that you're an adult...

Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child?
Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time
with your parents?
Do your parents control you with threats or guilt?
Do they manipulate you with money?
Do you feel that no matter what you do, it's never good enough for your
parents?

In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case
histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to
help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your
relationship with your parents and discover a new world of
self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.

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