*Am I controlling? How?

I try to be the director and producer of life. I try to micro manage life
according to my fantasy land script for life. I use manipulation and pushing to
try to get whatever I want whenever I want them.

*What is the difference between being powerless and being empowered?

Being powerless is about not being able to control things outside of
yourself. It’s about not being able to fix everyone and everything. It’s
about not
being able to script and direct life. Being powerless is about recognizing
that there is a higher power in control and trying to fight that is just a
headache and causes more pain.

Being empowered is about recognizing your ability to control and take care
of yourself. It’s about focusing on yourself and how you can change and
improve. It’s about taking responsibility for your actions and doing the
responsible thing. It’s about recognizing consequences and taking the power
of weighing
them out before acting. It’s about acting rather than reacting. It’s about
have control over your own attitude.

em·pow·er

To invest with power, especially legal power or official authority. See
Synonyms at authorize.
To equip or supply with an ability;
To make more confident or assertive: to give somebody a greater sense of
confidence or self-esteem

We empower ourselves to take responsibility for ourselves and our recovery.

*When I let go of others, how am I then empowered? How does this make my
life manageable?

When I let go of others I am empowered to put the focus on me. I can see
what I'm doing and why better when I'm not all mixed up in what everyone else
is
thinking and doing. I can learn to rely on myself, have faith in myself and
my higher power, and to really grow. I have greater resources to dedicate to
myself and my issues when I'm not obsessing about others. I am no longer
wasting time driving myself crazy about someone else so I have more energy for
me. I can recognize my true power when I'm no longer putting so much focus on
trying to exert power over others, which does not work.

This makes my life more manageable in a lot of ways. As I said before,
obsessing over and trying to control others takes a lot of energy and effort,
which doesn't leave much left to deal with the things that really belong to me.
I
spend so much time trying to clean everyone else’s side of the street that
when (if I do) come back to my side of the street I'm too tired to clean it
up. It just gets messier and more out of control as I try to ignore it. If I
let go of others, though, I've got no where to go but back to my side of the
street. I'm forced to look at the mess in front of me. At the same time,
though, I have more energy to start cleaning it up and making life a little more
manageable.

Also, when I let go of others I am no longer making them my higher power.
This gives me an opportunity to develop more of a relationship with my higher
power. I can learn to trust and rely on my higher power and with the help and
guidance of my higher power I can do and accomplish things that I could have
never done before.

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HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Be who you are and say what you feel,
because those who mind don't matter,
and those who matter don't mind.
- Dr. Suess


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