Types of Narcissism...

   
Body Shaper

Image, fashion, glamour, youth and beauty characterise the Body Shaper and
these attributes must be admired.  This kind of beauty is only 'skin deep' and
the aging process is often denied. The internal world is usually empty and
bleak, their relationships are often shallow, and they can be very demanding of
others. The Body Shaper is alway seeking praise of their beauty, or will often
inform you how beautiful they are and how everyone is jealous of them, or will
constantly criticize your own appearance in comparison to theirs.


The Craver

The Craver has plenty of love to give but it is always given with strings
attached; i.e. I'll give you 'x' but there is a, usually non-verbal, message
demanding that you give something back in return. As with all people with
Narcissistic Personalities the Craver has a great fear of abandonment and clings
to
those (s)he relates with and his/her needs can never be satisfied.
 

Special Lover

The Special Lover is a romantic at heart and idealizes his/her capacity for
loving.  He/she believes that love can cure all ills. As with all idealization
eventually it breaks down and there is deep disappointment.  The internal
world of the Special Lover is especially vulnerable and sensitive to slights,
real
or imagined. There is also a high level of intolerance to imperfections in
the partner.

   
Martyr

Suffering is glorified by the martyr, (s)he is a victim and tells the world
about it unceasingly. Personal identity is the pain which is never in the past
but always in the present.  These people want care and support and will
exploit others in order to get this. Grandiosity is bound up with this position:
no-one else has ever suffered as I suffer and relationships are formed with
someone else who needs to be needed and is exploited to provide narcissistic
supplies. This is a covert way of controlling other people.


Fantasy Maker

The Fantasy Maker has retreated into a world of his/her own creation that has
a greater or lesser correlation with the real world. The internal world of
fantasy is a defence against the pain and anguish of reality and is avoided at
all costs because it is cold and harsh. These people rarely take responsibility
for themselves so are unable to form a therapeutic relationship. Also, they
have a very loose relationship with the truth distorting it to suit themselves
whenever they are threatened. Lies may be difficult to detect.


Power Broker

Power is the goal for the Broker... he/she is in love with it. The Power
Broker bullies, humiliates and terrorizes his/her victims and is arrogant, cold
and bureaucratic.  He/she is contemptuous to inferiors and lives without
considering the consequences of their acts to other people. He/she is out to get
what
they want when they want it by any means.

   
Rager

A barely controlled rage lies below the surface of this Narcissistic
structure and lashes out when the narcissism is dented. Explosive rage can be
irrational and it is often accompanied by violence. This type can be very
controlling
and abusive in relationships when (s)he cannot get his/her own way.  It would
not be an exaggeration to say that 'All hell breaks loose' and the word
'tantrum' is appropriate.


Trickster

The Trickster is a charmer and is at ease in a wide range of social
situations. He/she is smooth, engaging and inviting.  The Trickster invites
people to
trust him/her but underneath the seemingly innocuous facade is the 'con-artist'
who seeks out those who are naive and trusting and is ruthless in
relationships.  He/she has a malicious intent and a right of entitlement: the
ends
justify the means and he/she is incapable of remorse.

 






Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting
different results.

~ Albert Einstein


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