Abuse of Police/Firefighter Power

This website is for and by women who have been abused by intimate partners
who are police officers or firefighters.

http://www.dwetendorf.com/index.htm

There are no statistics that tell us what percent of officers and
firefighters emotionally abuse and physically batter their intimate partners.
All we know
is that there are many of them. We know because we have heard their victims'
stories and seen their victims' bruises. We know because we have buried so
many of their victims.

We are not implying that all firefighters or all police officers are
controlling, dominating, or abusive in their intimate relationships. We
recognize that
many, hopefully most, police and firefighter couples maintain loving
relationships with a healthy balance of power.

Men and women who choose to be police officers or firefighters face unique
challenges, stresses, and problems. Most recognize when they or their family
members need help. There are many resources, books, and therapists available to
police and fire families who occasionally need help coping.

But a woman who is battered by an intimate partner who is a firefighter or
police officer is marginalized or even ignored. If you are one of these victims,
you know it is not easy to find help or information. Most of us have remained
silent - with good reason.

Our need to be heard and to be visible is beginning to overcome our fear.
Some women are compelled to talk about what's happened to them. They are talking
to us on these pages. These survivors have contributed information and
insights based on their own experiences to show you that you are not alone.

Our Goals
Break our isolation.
Confront the system.
Educate all those who feel the impact of this crime.
We hope you will find the material helpful as you search for your own unique
way to take back your life.



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