Hello dandelion friends! I'm teaching some Holistic Sexuality/Sexual Health
classes this spring, one at a college where I taught the same class last year,
and another in Montpelier, VT at an herb school I haven't yet taught at. The
workshop is part anatomy lesson, part show and tell of natural and fun products
and resources, part lesson on self-care techniques for sexual health, and part Q
& A time. Looking over last year's handout, I realized I want to spruce it up.
I'm sending last year's handout along to share recipes and get some feedback. I
started with a few questions which quite rapidly spontaneously reproduced into
many, many questions. So, please take some time to browse the questions and
answer some of them, or all of them! If any are too personal, just skip them.
(Though I do encourage brave sharing, and your answers will remain anonymous.)
If you find any offensive, please let me know. I want folks who attend these
workshops to leave feeling empowered, educated, and excited. I'm trying to be
as open, non-judgmental, and non-assumption-making as I can be, but so often,
despite our best intentions, we do reveal some biases or assumptions. So call
me out! And if you'd like to share these in person or over the phone, call me
up! (Email me for my # if you don't have it) Please forward this survey to
anyone you think may be interested, I'd love to get an abundant response! If
you have any questions, please be in touch. I'm going to glean everyone's
responses for ideas, thoughts, recipes, resources, etc. If you do not want any
of your information shared, please write so. If you're happy for me to share
the knowledge, thank you! (and like I said above, your name will not be shared).
Woo-hoo!


Much love,

Dana

dandelion778@...



♥Sexual 20+ Questions!!♥



Optional: Answer these questions if you choose and however you choose!



Gender__­­­­­­­­­­___________________ Sexual
orientation________________________________



Relationship Status________________ Age______ Ethnicity_________________________





1. What is your definition of sex? (Most doctor's offices and books consider
sex to be vaginal penile penetration between a `man' and `woman.' Or, as my
friend calls it, envelopmental sex. That's one kind…)











2. What is sex to you? Circle all that apply, and then add more:

sacred fun healing weird transformative playful loving confusing
relaxing painful stimulating

More:





3. Who taught you most about sex?











4. What do you wish you knew before you became sexually active?

















5. What are you glad that you've learned?















6. What would be your ideal sexual education, now, when you were younger, or
both?











7. How do you keep your sex life (solo or with another/others) vibrant?













8. How do you tend to your sexual self/needs, separate from a partner?













9. How do you make safe sex fun?







Sexy?







Sacred?







10. What resources do you think are fabulous and that others should know about
(books, sex toys, lubes, companies, anything!)













11. What great sex ed workshops and/or sex positive shops have you discovered?







12. What is erotic to you?













13. What is an aphrodisiac to you?













14. What's been a surprising revelation through sex (I, for instance, had no
idea til recently that I love to have my toes sucked on! Who knew?!)

















15. What are your erogenous zones/most sensitive spots?













16. What's your ideal realistic date?













17. What's your ideal fantasy date?













18. Where are your favorite places to have sex?











19. What's your favorite sex story/memory – first kiss, best date, most
pleasurable sex, etc.?



















20. Explain the kinds of messages (positive and/or negative) about sex you were
given by

Family:







Friends:





Religion:





Community:





Culture:





Teachers:







21. What of these would you like passed on?











22. What of these do you want to end with your generation?













23. What negative sexual preconceived notions/judgments/inhibitions did you
carry before you realized you're into it (ie being weirded out by some sex
act/`fetish' that actually feels good)?















24. When people make offensive comments about other peoples' sex lives
(homophobia, trans(gender)phobia, name calling: slut/prude/whore, etc) how do
you respond? Any good one liners? Thought provoking questions?















Not finished? Well then, keep on writing!!!! And then send to:
dandelion778@...