Make a list of all the decisions, actions, thoughts, that you feel you need to forgive yourself for. 

You need not show this to anyone. These are yours.

After you have written as many as you feel you can, write across each one "I forgive myself."

Not with the attitude of "what a fool I am" nor with the attitude of "this is an exercise I am doing because I read about it" but, rather, with a heartfelt joy of knowing that you are letting go of unnecessary baggage. 

Send yourself a hug for each one and let it go. You will begin to create a new you. 

Once you have forgiven yourself you have the power to forgive others.

Give a gift to yourself. Forgive yourself. Along the rocky road of life we have all made choices that weren't always in our or others best interest. Greed, lust, hate, jealousy, anger may have caused us to make a choice or take an action that has, in retrospect, not been a very wise choice. We may have harmed someone or ourselves, physically, emotionally, or spiritually. Family members are usually the easiest targets from which many difficult choices were made.

Guilt, shame and blame are the primary emotions that accompany someone who has not forgiven themselves. Are these emotions present in you? Do you replay your "mistakes" or do you bury them wishing them to never be seen or heard from again? Did you or do you run away?

Why forgive yourself? Afterall you are the one that screwed up? Look at the damage, the pain and the suffering you caused! It was your fault and you are to blame.

Here is the reasoning in forgiving yourself. Those black marks, those black deeds, those demons that you carry around with you are part of your belief system that say "I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH, I DON'T DESERVE TO BE COMPLETELY HAPPY." And any time that do begin to have feelings of joy and happiness you are quickly reminded of when you did_______________(you fill in the blank). Instantly you come down, from any high that you might be attaining, crashing hard right back to the place of I'm not good enough, I don't deserve...

Forgiveness is a way out. Forgiveness of self is about letting go of your past. Follow this:

We all make the best choice based on the information we have at the time. For example: (And this is just an example. It is not true.) My son tells me that he is not feeling well and doesn't want to go to school. I look him over and decide that I can't see anything wrong with him and assume his not feeling well will probably pass in a short while. I decide to send him to school. I choose to send him to school because I have to go to work, there is no one to look after him, and it's not uncommon for him to feel a bit off and recover very quickly. I believe that I have made the best choice at this time.

A few hours later I get a call from the hospital that my son has been admitted with some medical problem and is in serious trouble. After arriving at the hospital I am told that if I had noticed a problem earlier my son might not be in such danger.

Should I feel guilty? Am I to blame? Is this my fault? I should have know better.

I made, at the time of my son's first complaint of his sickness, the best choice that I thought available. If I had known that he was very sick and in great danger do you think I might have made a different choice? Of course I would have. And so it goes for each one of us with every choice. We make the best choice based on the current information.     New information. New choices.

Forgiveness is about letting go of the old dirty baggage that we are carrying around. You see, without forgiveness of self, anytime things are going good, we dig into our dirty laundry for some stinky clothes. The clothes that prove that we are not worthy. I believe it's time to get rid of those old clothes. They no longer serve any purpose but to take away from who we really are. And we are the shining light. the wondrous creation, the perfect soul, the Divine. Let us show who we really are. We are not of darkness. We are of Light.

So let's begin by writing down all and I do mean all those things that we have said or done or thought of doing that cause or caused us guilt, shame or blame. After completing this write across each item that you need to forgive yourself for "I forgive myself" and mean it. Do not beat yourself up while doing this exercse. This exercise is about letting go. It is not about digging up the past to make you feel the guilt, shame and blame. Imagine all that dirty laundry going up to the sun and being exploded into nothingness. No trace. Gone. Gone. Gone.

Time to let your light shine. You are making new choices, new decisions. You are not of the same vibration as when you made your original choice. You have new information now. Make a new choice. Let go. Let the Light in. You are good enough. You do deserve whatever you want.

When you have comleted this exercise know that you have cleaned your past and now there is a void. You get to choose what to put in the void. Let Light into your void. Fill it with Light, love, happiness, joy, peace and harmony.

Now that you have forgiven yourself concentrate on the forgiving of others for this too is baggage that you carry. You are not your baggage. You are you, magnifent, powerful and on purpose. Give yourself a gift. Forgive yourself and forgive others.

Phil