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Properly setting boundaries can take education and practice. Nonetheless, even setting boundaries properly doesn't guarantee you will LIKE the violator's reaction. I.e., you can confront someone assertively, not aggressively, and in a firm tone of voice state, "I will not be spoken to in that manner. I feel abused by it. If you persist, I will hang up on you," and that individual might persist anyway, so that you WILL have to hang up in order to PROVE that you mean business about your boundary - when all you really wanted was for that individual to just stop being abusive toward you! This is the risk you take whenever you set any kind of boundary and adhere to it. Setting boundaries does not mean the violator is going to acquiesce, but they are intended to put an end to him/her violating your person or space. Some good resources are:

 

 

 

Introduction

• Characteristics of a Healthy Intimate Relationship

Step 1: Get ALERT to the hooks which keep you boundary-less in relationships  

• 10 Emotional Hooks in Relationships

Step 2: Do ANGER Workouts on the lack of healthy boundaries in your relationships  

• Anger Issues Resulting from a Lack of Boundaries in Relationships

Step 3: Do CHILD work to nurture your right to have boundaries in relationships  

• Personal Rights in Relationships

Step 4: Exercise your rights by identifying boundaries for your relationships

• Boundaries Needed in Healthy Relationships

Step 5: Take steps to set boundaries in your relationships

• Boundary Development Tasks

Step 6: Give up the need to have control in intimate relationships

• Control Behaviors Which Weaken Boundaries

Step 7: Order your live with healthy boundaries in your relationships

  

 

 

 

 

 

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