When Misery is Company: Ending Self-Sabotage and Misery Addiction by Anne
Katherine

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1592850847/templeofwisdo-20


Synopsis: This book offers solutions to anyone who has felt victimized,
ostracized or left behind by life.

Why does happiness always seem to elude certain people? And why, when these
same people seem to be on the cusp of achieving happiness, do they sabotage
themselves?

This is the first book about addiction to misery, a common but subtle problem
that keeps many people from responding to counseling or therapy, healing from
old hurts, and experiencing fulfillment and joy. For people who are addicted
to misery, happiness itself is frightening and threatening. As a result, every
joy must be equalized by a setback. Too much success must be balanced by
failure.

People who are addicted to misery try to protect themselves against feeling
bad by not feeling too good. For them, happiness itself triggers a pattern of
decisions and behaviors that leads to emotional pain - pain that is comforting
in its familiarity. Because of the subtlety and contradictions of an addiction
to misery, many talented therapists and counselors may not recognize it and
those who have it often unable to see through it.

When Misery is Company not only explains the problem, it offers a practical,
step-by-step program for overcoming it-and living a life of joy and
fulfillment.



Boundaries (Fireside/Parkside Recovery Book) by Anne Katherine

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0671791931/templeofwisdo-20


Synopsis:Are Your Boundaries Being Violated?

Boundaries separate us from others physically and emotionally. In fact, they
are essential for our mental and physical health as well as for developing
healthy relationships. Yet every day, people's boundaries are violated by
friends, family, or coworkers. Despite the importance of personal boundaries
many
people are unaware of how or when these very important lines are crossed.

Which of the following are boundary violations?

Esther tells Betty a secret Mary told her.
Your therapist invites you to go for coffee.
Your boss wants to know the details of your personal life.
Your boss asks you if you'd like a hug.
Mom tells little Debbie about her troubles with Dad.
Your new neighbor pats you on the bottom as he turns away.
Your mother makes a comment about your being overweight.

All but one of the above incidents violate boundaries (your boss asks you if
you'd like a hug). In Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin, Anne Katherine
explains what healthy boundaries are, how to recognize if your personal
boundaries are being violated, and what you can do to protect yourself.

For anyone who has walked away from a conversation, a meeting, or a visit
with others feeling violated and not understanding why, this is a book that can
help.



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