Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages Our
Lives by Pia Mellody

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0062505890/templeofwisdo-20


Synopsis: This book stands out among the current glut of material on
codependence because it claims the realm of parenting for its vantage point. The
authors believe that codependents must heal themselves in order not to repeat
the
"less than nurturing" behaviors of their own addicted or emotionally
dysfunctional parents. Hence, they couple strategies for recovery with
guidelines on
what is and is not "normal" in the parent-child relationship. The authors'
conclusions will invite controversy; for instance, they suggest that "emotional
sexual abuse" of children may lead to homosexuality in adulthood. Nor are they
reluctant to generalize: "Although physical and mental illness aren't
addictions,
their effect on the family is the same." Offsetting the opinionated
commentary is great compassion for the helpless, hurt children who live inside
adult
codependents.

A brilliant new guide to understanding the origins of codependence and the
path to recovery by a nationally recognized authority on dependency and
addiction. In this fresh new look at codependence, Pia Mellody traces the
origins of
this illness back to childhood, describing a whole range of emotional,
spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Because of these earlier
experiences, codependent adults often lack the skills necessary to lead mature
lives
and have satisfying relationships.

Recovery from codependence comes from clearing up the toxic feelings left
over from childhood and learning to re parent oneself by intervening on the
adult
symptoms of codependence. Central to Mellody's concept is the idea of the
"precious child" that needs healing within each adult. She creates a framework
for identifying codependent behavior and describes an effective approach to
recovery that includes both therapy and self-help processes. Designed to be used
with her new workbook for codependents, Breaking Free, this is a powerful tool
for understanding the nature of codependence.



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And long-leggedy beasties
And things that go bump in the night,
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