Why Is It Always About You? : The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism
by Sandy Hotchkiss

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0743214285/templeofwisdo-20


Editorial Reviews

The Hartford Courant A how-to not only for disengaging yourself from the
narcissists in your life but also learning to live with them. Drew Pinksy, M.D.
A
practical and accessible book about one of the most prevalent personality
disorders of our time. Jerold J. Kreisman, M.D. coauthor of I Hate You -- Don't
Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality. People who experience
narcissism in themselves or in others now have a guide to help them steer
through
the storm.


Book Description

In this groundbreaking book -- the first popular book on narcissism in more
than a decade -- clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss
shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of
the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring
how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their
perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the
"Seven
Deadly Sins of Narcissism" and their origins. You will learn to recognize
these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism -- Shamelessness, Magical Thinking,
Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, Bad Boundaries -- and to understand
the
roles that parenting and culture play in their creation.

Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child,
Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone
struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation, and
for
anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life.

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Reader Reviews:

Finally an answer, June 9, 2003
Reviewer: A reader
Ms. Hotchkiss's insight into Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) finally
gave a voice to what I have been thinking for many years. After attracting
narcissists of varying degrees into my life, I always found myself in the end
either in complete disbelief at the behaviour I had encountered and tolerated,
or
believing there was something deeply wrong with me. When I began reading "The
Seven Deadly Sins" as she puts it which outline some of the major personality
flaws of those affected by NPD, I just wanted to shout out "Yes!, Yes!, this
makes it all clear!". While this book primarily focuses on how to identify
NPDs, it does provide some insight as to why you may be the personality type
that
attracts these damaged people into your life and how to manage them. Ms.
Hotchkiss writes with, and I certainly believe that she has, empathy for those
troubled with NPD, however, she also is very firm in that they most often do not
change, and in order to save yourself from a lifetime of being used and
emotionally sucked dry, you have to distance yourself. This may not be the most
in
depth writing on the subject but, for those of you like me who know in your
heart that there is something wrong with someone in your life, this book can be
a
real eye opener, give voice to what you know is there, and set you on a road
to recovery. Highly recommend. --


A life changer, May 16, 2004
Reviewer: A reader
I had reached rock-bottom when a friend recommended this book to me: I found
myself on my knees, begging my husband not to be angry at me. This book had
everything I needed to pull myself out of the gutter: clarity, insight,
intelligence, and page after page of perfect descriptions of what I had been
living
with for many years. Then came strong, simple advice on how to live a sane life.
The descriptions helped me let go of my fantasy that he could change; the
advice helped me turn my own path into one of optimism and strength. Thank you,
SH.


Why is it Always about you, May 28, 2003
Reviewer: Kathy H. "special-kah" (Runnemede, NJ United States) - See all my
reviews
This book help me more than any theraphy could have helped me. If you want
validation for the difficult people (Personality disorder) you have to deal
with, this is the book. It describes Narcissism for what it is. Narcissist prey
on
those who have been shamed, so they can take on their disowned shame that
their ego can not tolerate. Most of us are walking around with projections that
don't even belong to us, they belong to them!!!!!! Best book on the subject.
Best line in the book is - Narcissism breeds a new narcissist generation-- as
well as people who seem to be magnets for this personality type.




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