"As long as we believe that we have to have the other in our life to
be happy, we are really just an addict trying to protect our supply -
using another person as our drug of choice. That is not True Love -
nor is it Loving."

Romantic Relationships
This dance of Codependence is a dance of dysfunctional relationships -
of relationships that do not work to meet our needs. That does not
mean just romantic relationships, or family relationships, or even
human relationships in general.
The fact that dysfunction exists in our romantic, family, and human
relationships is a symptom of the dysfunction that exists in our
relationship with life - with being human. It is a symptom of the
dysfunction which exists in our relationships with ourselves as human
beings.

And the dysfunction that exists in our relationship with ourselves is
a symptom of Spiritual dis-ease, of not being in balance and harmony
with the universe, of feeling disconnected from our Spiritual source.

That is why it is so important to enlarge our perspective. To look
beyond the romantic relationship in which we are having problems. To
look beyond the dysfunction that exists in our relationships with
other people.

The more we enlarge our perspective, the closer we get to the cause
instead of just dealing with the symptoms. For example, the more we
look at the dysfunction in our relationship with ourselves as human
beings the more we can understand the dysfunction in our romantic
relationships.

(Text in this color is used for quotes from Codependence: The Dance
of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney)
"As long as we believe that we have to have the other in our life to
be happy, we are really just an addict trying to protect our supply -
using another person as our drug of choice. That is not True Love -
nor is it Loving."

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