Hey everyone, I got this literature at a f2f meeting and think it's
worth sharing...

Codependent's Rights in Recovery

Sharon Wegscheider, author of CHOICEMAKING, believes that it's
improtant for the codependent to have some guidelines of behavior to
follow in early recovery, and has sketched out a set of suggested
guidelines of personal rights:

I have a right to say, "No!" to anything that violates my values. I
do not have to passively acquiesce and defer to others when my values
are at stake.

I have a right to dignity and respect.

I have a right to set my own proioroties and say, "No!" to any
request that conflicts with my priorities. This is not a right to
total selfishness, it's a right to self-care.

I have a right to stand up for myself. And if I don't, I can't
expect others to take me seriously.

I have a right to say, "No!" I have a right to be an assertive
person - not confusing assertion with aggression.

I have a right and an obligation to show my feelings. My feelings
are part of the real me - my real response to others and to the
world. And no one can read my mind to know what I feel.

I have a right to say, "I don't care." I need to pass by some
things, some people, and I need to be able to let go of the hurtful
things in my past.

I have the right to change my mind. I don't have to stick with a bad
decision to the bitter end.

I have the right to make mistakes. I don't have to like making
mistakes, but I will make them, and I'm entitled to make them
because, as the saying goes, no one's perfect.

As you can see, with rights come responsibilities. And here is a
paramount responsibility:

I have the obligation not to violate these rights in anyone else.