How to Break Your Addiction to a Person: When and Why Love Doesn't Work, and
What to Do About It by Howard Halpern

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0553260057/templeofwisdo-20

From the Publisher
Are you in love--or addicted? How to know when to call it quits...and how to
find the courage to call it quits.

Are you unable to leave a love relationship even though it gives you more
pain than joy? Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but still, to
your dismay, you hang on. You are addicted--to a person. Now there is an
insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that addiction--and surviving the
split.
Drawing on dozens of provocative case histories, psychotherapist Howard
Helpern explains to you:

Why and how you may try to deceive yourself. ("He really loves me, he just
doesn't know how to show it.")

Why you can get addicted to a person.

How you can recognize the symptoms of a bad relationship.

How to deal with the power moves and guilt trips your partner uses to hold
you.

Why strong feelings of jealousy do not mean you are "in love."

How to get through the agonizing breakup period--without going back.

How not to get caught in such a painful relationship again.

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Spotlight Reviews

A Keeper to read again & again, June 3, 2001
Reviewer: ginazone (see more about me) from Glens Falls, NY United States
I first devoured this book about 9 years ago & it saved my life, literally! I
could not leave a very sick abusive man, even though I was terrified of him,
even when he degraded me, even when it made my hate myself & feel disgusted at
my seeming powerlessness to leave. This book SAVED my LIFE! I was able to
break my lifelong patterns of choosing women haters, violent batterers, charming
seductive snakes whose only goal was to drive me insane & break me in pieces
emotionally until I had NO self-worth, self-respect, NO SELF at all left. Why
do we stay hooked in harmful relationships? It's not always physically abusive,
sometimes they are emotionally & verbally abusive to the point that you no
longer know what is real. You want so badly to believe the lies & excuses, hold
onto the hope that your lover will change if you just love them enough, I know
he really loves me, she/he's just having a bad day, etc. If you've ever been
in any type of relationship that you knew or suspected was harmful but STILL
could NOT leave, you know the shattering pain of addiction to a person.

This book tells one how they became addicted & why, how to recognize a bad
relationship, how to deal with the power & guilt trips your partner uses to keep
you hooked, that jealousy & possessiveness do NOT mean love, how to get
through the breakup without going back, & how to break this pattern for good! I
could have gone through years of expensive therapy & still not received the
exact
help or understanding that I needed to set myself free from addictive
relationships. I just bought a new copy of the book--it is timeless, worth much
more
than the cover price of...(therapy could cost thousands, take years & have
less results). I recommend getting at least 2 because you won't want to share &
we always know at least one person trapped in addictive relationships. You're
worth it, right? :-)


This book saved my life, January 14, 2003
Reviewer: A reader from New Orleans
I was in a deep depression over fear of losing someone I loved. I have always
been anxious and upset about people leaving me. When I felt like I was going
to die, I bought this book in hopes of helping me get over feeling so
rejected. It really saved my life. It made me realize once and for all why my
relationships consistently dont work out even when they seem right. It gave me
clear,
concise and helpful activities and exercises to do everyday that helped me
recover from needing someone so badly. It helped me feel more independent, in
control and confident in my life. It helped me to understand why I am the way I
am and it used very specific behavioral conditioning to help me change that.
This book is not an easy way out. It is not a quick fix for your life. It tells
the truth and provides a clear plan that you would implement over a period of
time to help you to stop depending on and needing people. It takes work and
dedication but it is worth every ounce of self confidence and independence you
will feel after getting over your addiction. Helpful for both those who are in
an addictive relationship and those who have just left one.




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