How to Break Your Addiction to a Person : When and Why Love Doesn't Work, and
What to Do About It
by Howard Halpern (Author)

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0553260057/templeofwisdo-20


A Keeper to read again & again, June 3, 2001

Reviewer: ginazone (see more about me) from Glens Falls, NY United States

I first devoured this book about 9 years ago & it saved my life, literally! I
could not leave a very sick abusive man, even though I was terrified of him,
even when he degraded me, even when it made my hate myself & feel disgusted at
my seeming powerlessness to leave. This book SAVED my LIFE! I was able to
break my lifelong patterns of choosing women haters, violent batterers, charming
seductive snakes whose only goal was to drive me insane & break me in pieces
emotionally until I had NO self-worth, self-respect, NO SELF at all left.

Why do we stay hooked in harmful relationships? It's not always physically
abusive, sometimes they are emotionally & verbally abusive to the point that you
no longer know what is real. You want so badly to believe the lies & excuses,
hold onto the hope that your lover will change if you just love them enough,
I know he really loves me, she/he's just having a bad day, etc. If you've ever
been in any type of relationship that you knew or suspected was harmful but
STILL could NOT leave, you know the shattering pain of addiction to a person.

This book tells one how they became addicted & why, how to recognize a bad
relationship, how to deal with the power & guilt trips your partner uses to keep
you hooked, that jealousy & possessiveness do NOT mean love, how to get
through the breakup without going back, & how to break this pattern for good! I
could have gone through years of expensive therapy & still not received the
exact
help or understanding that I needed to set myself free from addictive
relationships.

I just bought a new copy of the book--it is timeless, worth much more than
the cover price of...(therapy could cost thousands, take years & have less
results). I recommend getting at least 2 because you won't want to share & we
always know at least one person trapped in addictive relationships. You're worth
it, right? :-)

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher

Are you in love--or addicted? How to know when to call it quits...and how to
find the courage to call it quits.

Are you unable to leave a love relationship even though it gives you more
pain than joy? Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but still, to
your dismay, you hang on?

You are addicted--to a person.

Now there is an insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that
addiction--and surviving the split. Drawing on dozens of provocative case
histories,
psychotherapist Howard Helpern explains to you:

Why you can get addicted to a person.

Why and how you may try to deceive yourself. ("He really loves me, he just
doesn't know how to show it.")

How you can recognize the symptoms of a bad relationship.

How to deal with the power moves and guilt trips your partner uses to hold
you.

Why strong feelings of jealousy do not mean you are "in love."

How to get through the agonizing breakup period--without going back.How not
to get caught in such a painful relationship again.


Inside Flap Copy
Are you in love--or addicted? How to know when to call it quits...and how to
find the courage to call it quits.


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