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RE: [Cervical-Cancer] Re: feeling lousy looking for support

Kelly,
My heart really went out to you because you are so young and having to face having just one child.
There's not easy way to get over this and it will always be hard and also so easy to be angry at what cancer
has cost you in terms of family. It's not quite so hard for me because I am 40 and the almost 18 years I spent married
only resulted in one child (maybe for a reason?) and this was partly due to it taking a long time for me to want one
because I had an absolutely miserable pregnancy and my ex never wanted more. I, however, always knew I would like more
and when I divorced it was in the back of my mind that if I met a man who wanted to have a child with me I would do that.
Well, I met a wonderful man, who I was only dating when I was diagnosed and he never had kids (he's also divorced and they lost
3 pregnancies) but he did want them. If I were able, I think we might have had one. I was open to it and he was too. So,
for me that was hard, but I try to think positively and I do have a wonderful 16 yr old daughter, who is an absolute sweetheart, and
hopefully I have my health back. The alternative is too hard to think about. I do wish I could give my daughter a sibling. Cancer makes
you face your mortality and I hate to think of her getting older alone. She has only one cousin on my side and she faces a very small
family in the future. So, that makes me feel guilty for not having the second child earlier, but I guess it was never meant to be.
I think she will have her friends and I can live with that.
 
I also have a close friend that has a 9 year old son and for the past 7 years she has battled a rare cancer that has seeds all over her
abdomen inside, that form tumors. She takes a form of chemo daily as a pill and seeing how positive and strong she is has made me
have a similar attitude. I am no where near as strong as she is, but she is great to look up to. She is in pain daily and yet still finds it
in herself to carry on and be a terrific mother to her son. 
 
I guess we all only have today and we need to live for that. Sounds trite, and it doesn't make having more children any easier. I also
sometimes think this whole cancer thing has not really hit me and I might end up going through a terrible period of mourning. I am still going
through some divorce fall out and don't really have time to dwell on the cancer. I also find that planning and having other things to look forward to
help me so much. When I was diagnosed, I had to cancel a trip to Europe.  My mother was taking me, my daughter and my sister there for the first time.
My daughter is going to Germany with school in April, so I will miss out on experiencing the first time in Europe with her, but it will be a first for me and my sister.
We hope to go later this year as long as I am ok. We just got word that my mother's cancer, she has been fighting cancer of the tongue for the past 10 yrs, has not returned after having 2 biopsies before Christmas. In fact, her oncologist took a sample to test for HPV, which they are studying to link to cervical cancer.
She's a non smoker and non drinker, so her cancer was very unexplained. Hopefully the research will help others.
 
Well, I have rambled long enough. How are you feeling about the whole end of your childbearing years and I am guessing you are in early menopause too, how are
you coping with that.
 
Susan
 


From: Cervical-Cancer@yahoogroups.com [mailto:Cervical-Cancer@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of kellyjt19
Sent: Monday, January 8, 2007 10:31 PM
To: Cervical-Cancer@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [Cervical-Cancer] Re: feeling lousy looking for support

Thanks! Actually, the tumor was only on the cervix and luckily I did
not have to go through any other treatment. I am having an extremely
difficult time coping with the concept of having only one child. Are
you still? I would love to hear from anyone else that could relate
and how they are handling it! I am also going back next week for
another check up! ~Kelly

--- In Cervical-Cancer@yahoogroups.com, "Rowe, Susan: CBSC - STJ"
<rowe.susan@...> wrote:
>
> Hi, It's good to hear that you are doing well and were able to carry
> your baby long enough to have a positive outcome.
> You have really had so much to deal with all at once. I wanted to
ask
> you if you had treatment other than the hysterectomy?
> Just wondering because you said that were no signs of cancer
elsewhere
> over 1cm. Did that mean there were small spots?
> Have they been treated?
> How are you coping with the prospect of having one child? I am 40
and
> was diagnosed last May at 39 when I found myself newly divorced,
> in a brand new relationship with a man who never had kids and
perhaps
> wanted them. So, for me I had to deal with the prospect that I
> could no longer have a second child. Certainly not easy. I figured
after
> my divorce if I found the right man I might want to have another
child.
> It's not easy when choice is dictated and no longer yours to make.
>
> I also had no signs of cancer until a bad pap smear in May 2006 that
> further testing (MRI) revealed a 7x7x7 cm tumor along with enlarged
> lymph nodes.
> So far the radiation (internal and external) and chemotherapy that
I had
> have worked and I responded well to treatment. I return for my
first 3
> month check up
> on January 16th and am hoping for a good report.
>
> Once of the things that's not discussed in much detail is the fact
that
> I am now in menopause. I'd like to know how anyone else thrown into
> early menopause
> is feeling.
>
> Feel free to contact me directly if you need to talk.
> Susan
>
>
>
> ________________________________
>
> From: Cervical-Cancer@yahoogroups.com
> [mailto:Cervical-Cancer@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of kellyjt19
> Sent: Thursday, January 4, 2007 12:01 PM
> To: Cervical-Cancer@yahoogroups.com
> Subject: [Cervical-Cancer] Re: feeling lousy looking for support
>
>
>
> Hi, I am 29 yrs old and went through a similar experience last
year.
> I went in for a pregnancy comformation, pap, etc. last Dec. and all
> looked okay. However, in April I started to have abnormal bleeding.
> The Dr. said it was normal in the 2nd trimester to have cysts and
> removed it with no concerns. However, when I went in the following
> week for the results it came back full blown cervical cancer!!! I
> was shocked as I had never had any signs before. So, he told me
they
> would try to have me carry long enough for the baby's lungs to
> develop, deliver by c-section, followed by an immediate
> hysterectomy! Wow-what news at once after things were going so
> well. I went to the oncologist that week and had a PET scan while
> pregnant. I had a rare type that usually begins in the lungs, but
> there were no signs over a centimeter anywhere else. Otherwise I
> would have had to start chemo/radiation. I was able to make it to
34
> weeks and now have a healthy 6 month old. However, this will be my
> only child. I have had to go through having a preemie in the NICU,
> cancer, hysterectomy, and fertility loss all at once!!! It is very
> hard! I can sympathize with you and wonder if anyone else has a
> similar situation!
>
> --- In Cervical-Cancer@yahoogroups.com
> <mailto:Cervical-Cancer%40yahoogroups.com> , "vikkita123"
> <romalley2@>
> wrote:
> >
> > Hi, I'm 37 yrs old. I was diagnosed with stage 1b1 endocervical
> > adenocarcinoma in November following a cone biopsy and cerclage
due
> > to me being 16 weeks pregnant.
> > A little background - I was not due for a pap smear until
> December.
> > I went to my OBGYN in September because I was newly pregnant.
They
> > did a routine pregnancy pap smear. Pap smear showed abnormal
> > cells. My OB was not too concerned because it was not abnormal
for
> > paps to come back "abnormal" during pregnancy due to the
hormones.
> > She scheduled a colposcopy and to her suprise and mine it showed
> > carcinoma insitu. A cone biopsy was done which then confirmed
that
> > I indeed had adenocarcinoma stage 1b1. I was devasted and still
> > am. My only option for treatment according to my OB and Gyn
> > Oncologist was to have a radical hysterectomy asap with
termination
> > of my pregnancy. There was no time to wait until the baby was
> > developed enough to be born. So at 20 weeks of pregnancy I
> > underwent what turned out to be a modified radical hysterectomy
> > (ovaries were left but lymph nodes were all removed). I am 9 days
> > post op and was feeling ok until 2 days ago. I still have a foley
> > cather in and will for another 3 weeks. By the way I am home. I
> am
> > feeling crampy as if having menstrual cramps. The catheter hurts
> > and I have a constant urge to urinate which hurts. I finally
moved
> > my bowels today but still feel quit uncomfortable. I am taking
> > dilauded for pain. My incision is hurting as the staples are
> > starting pull. Besides feeling physically terrible I am also
> > mourning the loss of my baby girl. Ironically, if it were not for
> > the pregnancy the cancer would have not been detected so early so
I
> > probably would not have gone for a pap until Feb or March. My
> > little angel saved my life. The biopsy of my lymph nodes shows no
> > invasion and so I would not have to have any further treaments.
> > I have two children (boy 5 yrs and girl 3yrs). They were both so
> > excited about having a sibling, infact they were asking for one
> > before I knew I was pregnant.
> > If anyone knows anyone that has had to make a difficult decision
> > like I had to please let me know. I'm also looking for support to
> > help me through this terrible time.
> > Thanks,
> > Vicky
> >
>



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