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Everyone has a victim story, which began with an event that gave birth to a particular belief that the world was a difficult, dangerous place. No matter when it occurred, the victim story is operating in every aspect of their life. Present lifetime victim stories are often carryovers of events from past lifetimes and the goal of the current lifetime is to transform this victim cycle into spiritual wholeness and power. But within the reality of our victim story we are truly powerless until we can make the choice to forgive our tormenters or continue to resent them.
 
We are told we must forgive those who have hurt us and that can be hard to do, especially since some victim stories are very painful. How do we forgive someone who has hurt, traumatized, betrayed or physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually damaged us? Some people have done the unforgivable to us-but is anything unforgivable in the eyes of God? To understand forgiveness let's look at its opposite, resentment. When we are not willing to forgive someone we are in the energy of resentment, which carries its own burdens.
 
We resent the person who hurt us and want them to apologize, ask us for forgiveness and give us closure. We want to understand their motivations, their purpose behind causing us so much pain. Without this closure we resent them and what they did. This leads to the creation of our victim story, which takes on a life of its own  and becomes our life template. It doesn't matter how long ago it happened, each time we remember or talk about it we re-experience it and all of its energy and create it in our life. And we continue to resent our abuser for what they did to us and for what happened in our life because of their actions, forgetting the karma, soul lessons and healing that they, and we, are part of. When we can forgive we transform the energy of resentment into something more life affirming and release ourselves from our own victim story.
 
Forgiveness is a challenging aspect of our spiritual journey because it requires us to transcend emotion and view life from a different perspective. It is not a gift that we give to another, it is the way we end karma, achieve our own closure and release ourselves from our victim paradigm. Forgiveness is the higher aspect of resentment and gives us the ability to write an ending to our victim story, which we participate in to heal our own soul traumas. The choice is ours and whatever we choose is appropriate for our soul's journey. But if we truly want to end our victim story and step into our power, forgiveness is the option we can embrace. Is there someone in your life that you resent? Can you forgive them, knowing that doing so releases you from the victim story they represent to you? Give yourself the gift of forgiveness so you can reclaim your power in this situation and move into the life of your dreams.