Tim,
Sorry to hear about the problems arising from any or all of the sudden
changes you have spoken about since your wives surgery.Long story short
here..I am a
survivor of brain surgeries,and a current brainstem meningioma that is
inoperable due to the danager involved if surgery were done.
Alot of times the problems arise from problems that were going on berfore
the
brain surgery,and or treatment.Sometimes its a hard thing to look in the
mirror
and really analize the problem.I have been married for 33 years now,so my
husband and I have been through better and worse,but for me thats why we
chose one another to "love" so long ago,not to throw the towel in when the
going gets rough.It is hard ....very very....but if this damage is from brain
surgery and treatments,there are alot of questions to ask yourself,and your
spouse.# 1. How much do I love my spouse...thats the most imporant.No one
deserves to be treated im humainly,but is it typical for the problem your
wife has?If so,is it permanet or temporary? Is it emotional,physical,or
both?My guess would be the latter would be both emotional and physical.I have
had a few differences since all of my brain surgeries and it has not been
easy on any of my family,kids,spouse,grandkids,friends,or MYSELF.I am very
greatful that
everybody had stood by me in my mist of such a big life style change for all
of us.I was once a very active person infact a lifeguard,and a 14 yera
gymnastic's
now over tha past yera I have been FORCED by all the changes to do a 500%
turabout,all the way from quitting work to going on disability.It has been
harder
than ANYTHING that I have ever had to face in my life time,but I had NO
choice.
It's been a rude awakening,and hard to accept in alot of ways.I feel like
somebody that I donot even know anymore....and I know my family sees the
same,but as hard as it is they love me anyway...I know at times it would be
like throwing the towel in...it may be easier,but would it really be?I mean
really after weighing everything you two have been together in life?You are
the only really one that can answer that in your heart.Have you spoken to the
Dr.about it at all?
Your wife may feel cheated,or trapped,and hurting.I'm just asking you to take
a really good look BEFORE you leap ok?Take care and know that we all care
about you and yours.Please feel freee to email anytime you need my support.
Take care and Bless you .SMILE we all love you.!
Caring lotz,
Patti