How do you explain to folks that our diff-ability is an invisible one
that demands we stand and identify it, fight to claim it? That is
how I see Asperger's. People I know deny that I am autistic to
any degree, as they know how high functioning I can be on a job.
But it was only in my work that I managed to put things together
in a way that succeeded. In personal relationships, I'm totally at
a loss. On a task, I can organize things, compensate for things,
make things happen in a way that stuns co-workers who figure
I'm working on a lost cause, a deadline too near at hand to be
made. I push work through at a rate that amazes even people
who dislike me, who fire me for social reasons, for my inability to
play with them on a job, for my shyness or reticence. So it goes.

I'm pushing Asperger's as an INVISIBLE DIFF-ABILITY and my
own case as a situation in which I am the SOLE caregiver 24/7
with NO relief in sight. I am risking being pitied as I paint a
picture of how desperately lonesome Asperger's can be for a
person who dreads being walked all over because I cannot set
boundaries when I am starved for affection or for company. -Zer
(kind of scared at what my fingers just told about me, on me...)