Hi all, I haven't posted for a long time because my life has been too
hard with the addition of a car accident 6 months ago that we are still
recovering from and I am still trying to get services for myself to help
get my life to not be so overwhelming.

But anyways, one of my service providers spelled Aspergers with a b
instead of a p and I told him it was with a p and he insisted it was
with a b because he saw it spelled on a flyer with a b and kept using a
b. It was very annoying and very upsetting to me. I finally said to
him that wherever he saw it with a b, it was probably a typo and that if
he looks anywhere on the internet or at the title of any book or I could
show him some flyers I had from the same source he claims put the b,
that he would see that it was spelled with a b.

Also this same service provider kept calling a woman who leads a support
group RH. I said you call her REH or just RE, never RH and never just
R. (Similar example: someone named Mary Jane Smith prefers to be
called Mary Jane and never just Mary, so she's never called Mary Smith,
that would be wrong.)

Okay, here's my point: he isn't intentionally annoying me, he's just
doing things the way he thinks is right, but it really annoys me that he
doesn't do it right. Since my Asperger diagnosis is fairly new and I am
still learning, I would like to hear feedback from others on why I do
things like this. Why do I have to insist on things being in a certain
order or a certain way? I am certainly not a controlling person, am
very flexible in many ways, but I would really like it put into words so
I can explain to people why I do this. I kind of have a visual idea of
why, but I don't have the verbal skills to translate it properly so I
need some help, so I can get people to stop calling me anal-retentive,
controlling or obsessive-compulsive because I am not any of those things.

Basically I need help reframing into a positive light my Aspie
characteristics that people label something negative. Are there any
websites out there that do this sort of thing? It's really important
for me to feel good about myself as an Aspie because I can't be anything
else! :)

Thanks!
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Lisa the Dreamer
http://www.visi.com/~unique