You can tell him with the actions of loving kindness. Don't worry so much about
"telling" him him. Words can often fail, as you know. I love you is fine, but
ACTIONS SPEAK MUCH LOUDER THAN WORDS. I am disabled with MS and I was abandoned
by my former husband of 17 years. He DID NOT LOVE ME and showed it in every one
of his aggressive, impatient, scornful, selfish, and hateful actions. I am
blessed to have a wonderful, beautiful loving man in my life now, who not only
tells me how much he loves me, but he shows me by all the loving, helpful and
selfless acts of kindness. His patient touch, companionship and devotion make
it abundantly clear that he is "there for me" and not going anywhere. I used to
feel very "unlovable" in my former marriage and suffered more than I should
have, but I now know God works in mysterious ways and I have chosen to co-create
my new life with God as my official partner. Hopefully your partner is in touch
with his spirituality. If he knows that he is so much more than a flesh and
blood being with an illness, it makes all the difference in the world in terms
of him feeling worthy of receiving your love. I used to beat myself up verbally
for having MS and suffered verbal sallies from my ex-husband as well. That is
all ancient history now and I thank God daily for all I have that is good in my
life. I finally realized MY TRUE WORTH and I accept all this love I am now
being shown. Attitude is EVERYTHING.